I Lie About Stupid Things...

Hi,

I've been lying ever since I was maybe 6 or 7. I'm 15 now. When I was younger, I had this friend and I would always tell her that I was rich and that I had a horse. I should have learned my lesson after my mom told her that we weren't rich and that I didn't have a horse, but no, I had to keep lying.

Well, anyway, we moved away and I've always switched schools. When I got into middle school, I had this close friend and I lied to her, telling her that I used to have this boyfriend and that we were really close and stuff. Luckily, I didn't lie to her too much.

Now, in high school, I've moved to yet another school. I've made a really close friend and for some reason, that I cannot explain, I've told her and all of my other friends that I used to have this guy friend and that we had sex and that he would let me do drugs and stuff. And I feel so guilty for lying to my best friend. Technically, everything she knows about my past isn't true.

I'm just so afraid that she'll somehow figure out the truth. I wouldn't mind her figuring out that I was lying, I just don't know how she would handle it. It's hard for me to carry such lies and it's harder to tell the truth when somebody you love is on the line.

I know this post is pretty lame, but I don't know why I lie about such stupid things. So who cares if I'm a virgin, never done drugs, or never had a boyfriend? But I still lie about it.

I just thought I'd see if anybody out there can help me or give me words or wisdom of whatnot. Anybody out there I can talk to would also be great.

Thanks everybody,

The problem with telling lies is that in the end you believe them yourself, and have the fear of rejection. I hve been telling lies most of my adult life, and it is easy to make excuses butmy reasons are low self esteem and belief in my natural abilities. The cause has been bad relationships one which was violent on my partners part and I am one of the rare cases of being victim to a womans violence, something at least I can say I have never returned to any woman and never wish to. I was then in a relationship which my partner took me for everything I had financially and then was forced to go bankrupt, and two failed relationships after that. I was always made to feel second best to my brother as a child, and with this and my experiences of relationships it seemed the easiest thing to tell lies to make things seem better. 7 years ago I met my wife and we got married after 2 months of meeting, we have 4 children my eldest being 6, and I have lied to Kate about money, houses we are buying etc in the past, she has stuck by me, and loves me for who I am and not what I am not. I am a bus driver, and just an ordinary guy my Wife and kids are my life and I and I do not want my children telling lies like me. Most of all I dont want to lose them.

I last had to come clean when we were on holiday last week, and at 40 years old I know I have to stop and be normal, not only for my Wife but for my kids as well as they are getting old enough to understand, I am determined to stop lying and in all of my years this is the first time I have taken steps to do something about it.

Martin

Martin,

Thank you very much for your imput. It helps me a lot to know that there are other people out there that lie about things. I've looked around and found that many people with Compulsive Lying problems also have had bad realationships or a difficult family growing up.

I can relate to that because growing up my mom was an alcoholic and my dad hit me all of the time for made up or pointless reasons. I also have something called Soft Sound Syndrome and it's always been difficult to live with. I also have a list of other weird and rare mental problems, haha. So, I'm not in the least bit surprised if I am a compulsive liar.

Anyhow, thank you very very much. I really appreciate it. Good luck to you!