Frienship in Jeopardy

Hi All,

I have just had a huge argument with a close friend of nearly 10 years. The argument was over money...to cut a long story short I have been having a few money problems of late and as friends we have always helped eachother out with money here and there so my friend said that he wanted to help me out by paying my bills that were piling up...I didn't agree at first as I know what he is like when it comes to paying his own let alone mine but anyway I said ok. A few weeks go by and all of a sudden bill reminders come in with threats to cut off services...so I ask my friend for the pay stubs and he kept putting it off avoiding the topic, etc so I checked with all the companies and they informed me they had never received payment from anyone! The thing is he lies about lots and lots of little things constantly and I have always brushed it off or simply let it slide to save an argument but its not only with me its with his partner as well, who by the way doesn't really seem to notice because he lies so well! He has no other friends because he has hurt and angered so many of them in the past that they just walked away and he can't hold down a job either. The wierd thing is that why is it making me so mad now?? I feel totally frustrated and hurt and I keep remembering all the other times it has happened and I keep asking myself what could I have done or said to avoid the big argument we are having now?? Did I let him get away with for too long??? Am I the guilty party here?

Even as I am writing this he has sent me an email accusing me of not trusting him and I am hurting him because I don't believe him, etc, etc another words he is laying on the guilts.

Any advice?? I have had enough but it hurts so much because he is such a great person in so many other ways!

Sad