I'm a liar and I want to stop

Hi everyone!

I'm a liar and I want to stop. This has caused much grief to my girlfriend and our relationship is now threatened because of it.

I lie about big things and about insignificant things.

I had the idea of looking for a "support group" about 3 days ago when I was watching "Fight Club", hence my nickname.

I'm doing my best to stop lying. I've tried several times before but I hope that with your help I'll have more success this time.

I haven't told the littlest lie for 2 days now.

Back to square one...

Today I lied to my brother about having eaten an egg or not. Really stupid lie...

hey there, i hear you there. I'm hardcore and can help. Get me here on site, PM, post,whatever, i will do best i can to assist. Take care ok? Be waiting to herr from you. Hardcore

Thanks!

Looking good today. And I haven't lied to my GF since I started posting here.

One thing I think is worth mentioning. Since I registered and started posting I now am much more self conscious about my lies. I think it is really helping.

How do you do after a lie? Do you go on, pretending that nothing happened, or do you go back and say "You know that thing we talked about earlier, that was a lie. Sorry, I couldn't help myself"?

I've done that of admiting it was a lie a couple of times with my girlfriend. Or ex girlfriend. But it was actually a drop of water in the ocean.
That happened with some more serious lies. When t was "white lies" I wouldn't give it a seconds thought.
Now, since I've registered here, I'm looking at things in a different way. When I lied to my brother yesterday I actually felt very bad about it. I didn't tell him I had lied because I thought it would hurt him more than any other thing but, maybe for the first time, I felt really bad about such a small lie. I feel it's been a turning point and I really hope I'll be able to sort this out.

I think you began making progress before you came here. It was when you thought "I want to stop". But it's great that this place makes it easier for you. :^)

I'm no expert on this, but I think it would be best to admit all lies. At least to your girlfriend. It would mark a change in your behaviour, wouldn't it? Perhaps she will trust you more if you admit all lies as fast as you can.

I agree with that.

We are not living together right now. In fact, I don't know if we will ever be back again. Nevertheless, for the past days, I have sent her a text message before going to sleep saying "I haven't lied to you today", because it's true.

Yesterday it read "I lied to someone else today, but not to you".

It was a really stupid lie! I was just chatting with a friend and it just came out in the middle of a story. Good thing is that I now spot those right there and they sting! What was the lie about? I can't even remember!

Anyway... I still think I'm making progress.

Cheers to you all!

No lies yesterday!!! Feeling good!

Good! Were you tempted?

Or perhaps it isn't like that, they just happen?