my parents dont trust me with anything

For the past 6 years ive been having problems with lying. it started in 3rd grade when i started to lie about my homework but since then i cant stop. i started to lie about being sick and then about my chores and now i cant help but lie to my parents' faces. I want to get better and i tell my parents that i want to but they dont believe me anymore.

last year i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and have been taking my medication daily. everything was ok until the start of this summer. i had a falling out with my best friend and have been lonely and bored. so i made a bad decision and resorted to online chat rooms like omegle. a couple days ago i met this really cool guy on there who has a lot in common with me but hes 23. i kept talking to him over the next few hours and we exchanged numbers, that was a really bad decision on my part. so ive been talking with him over the past week and we became close friends. part of me knew i should have stopped before it got any worse but the other part of me lied to myself to tell myself it was ok. my mom found out a couple hours ago that i was texting with a 23 year old and i got in serious trouble. she now doesnt trust me with anything i say or do.

i told her i feel ashamed of myself and i told her why i resorted to online chat rooms but she doesnt believe me. i feel really bad since she thinks she did something wrong because she has rules about talking to people online. she hasnt talked to me since she took my phone and said she was going to change my number and she doesnt know if im ever going to get my phone back.

i understand that i made a very serious mistake and that i should have asked before saying anything but now if i tell my mom something i know she wont believe me for a second. if anyone has any advice please leave a reply. it would be greatly appreciated.

EDIT: i do see a psychiatrist but im not going to see him for the next month or so, but when i see him again i will talk to him about my lying and ask him what i need to do to get help.

I have a compulsive honesty problem. I'm just here to see how the other side lives. But, here's some advice from a compulsively honest person.

See, being honest? It's super lazy. Lying? Good God that's some work. I HATE work. I'm not a worker - sorry not sorry - and that's step one - get lazy.

Step 2 - and this is the MOST important step - don't give a FUDGE.

That's right. You heard what I said. Parents mad at you for talking to some 23 year old dude? Don't give a fudge. Parents won't believe you when you DO tell the truth? Don't give a fudge.

In fact, you should be SO lazy and SO uncaring that you can just pop the truth right out of your mouth because you don't care and you're too lazy to think of anything else to say. BAM. instant truth serum.

Now, that was the easy part. HERE'S THE HARD PART

BLUNT HONESTY 101

Welcome to honesty college, kid.

Here's my favorite class - Blunt Honesty. Blunt honesty is FUN. Does that dress look good on ya gurl? No trick. Get them ham thighs out that yellow spandex sin of satan!

EXTRA CREDIT!!!

There's two kinds of blunt honesty - mean blunt honesty and nice blunt honesty. Nice blunt honesty -OMG- takes just a tiny bit more work to figure out how to tell someone about their ham thighs nicely, but be a master of both! Just know which kind you gotta use with which people!

Now, you're parents? You're a teenager? Mean blunt honesty. For sure. But don't be a beach about it - like don't start no crap - just be dead blunt honest - like

One.

State the facts.

MY FRIEND IS NOT MY FRIEND RIGHT NOW. I DON'T HAVE ANYONE TO TALK TO.

Two.

State you feelings.

I FEEL DEPRESSED. I FEEL ALONE. I FEEL BORED. I FEEL BAD. THE 23 YEAR OLD DUDE MADE ME FEEL NOT SO LONELY AND NOT SO SAD YOU FREAKIN D BAGS. GET OFF MY NUTS.

Three.

Tell it to them like this - "That is the truth *throws hands in the air* what else do you want from me? Believe me, don't believe, my story ain't changing! I DON'T GIVE A FUUUUUDGE! *air thrusts*"


Everyone loves an honest bad a$$ mother heffer.

BE THAT HONEST BAD A$$ MOTHER HEFFER!

And watch out for guys. All they want is nudey pics.

^^^ lol wow

But yeah, I feel you. I've had an eating disorder since I was 6, and I started out lying because I would lie about food. Ever since I've lied about all sorts of things, and my parents don't trust me as far as they can throw me.

I've lied about everything to everyone, lies come out of my mouth as if I were telling the truth. Most of the time I make the decision to lie for a specific reason (avoiding conflict, making myself look better, for fun), but sometimes I just lie and I'm not sure why. I'm also trying to work it out in therapy, keep us updated on how it goes!

If it makes you feel any better, I was moving out of an old apartment, and I told my roommates it was because I needed to move back to my parent's State to have a brain tumor removed and probably undergo extensive physical therapy. Completely false, but I just wanted to see if I could get away with it.

It is really tough to get out of the habit of lying to others, and to yourself, but I'm sure it's possible. Quick question, how old are you? Assuming you're underage, I understand why she's upset, but I'm sure she will get over it. You just need to commit yourself to being honest. The more you tell the truth, the easier it will be, because you'll see how much your quality of life will improve, and the more honest you'll become. I know it's easier said than done, but next time you realize you're about to lie, pause, think about the consequences of being caught, and do your best to tell the truth (not half truths or lying by omission!).

Good luck <3