hey im new here lying is ruining my life

hey guys im andrew. im losing the woman i love cause i cant stop lying. i need advice help anything i can get. it only happens when i become stressed or become frantic. when i lie i literally kinda black out it just flows out my mouth and i dont realize what i said till its too late then try to cover it up with more lies cause i feeel stupid. what do i do?

Best advice I can give is to try to remove yourself from the situation when you start feeling stressed. Just excuse yourself and walk away to settle down, then come back to it once you have.

yea walking away helps when i can. but what about in times i cant just excuse myself to calm down? but also if i walk away wouldnt people think im trying to fabricate a better lie?

well, what are you afraid of that causes this panic and black out of your speaking ability? Could it be you can't help the feeling of anger taking over you that you lie as a way to help bring it back down?

If the people know you have a problem with lying you can explain to them you are doing it to NOT lie, they will understand.

well an update for you guys. recently ive been stepping back keeping my cool and when i feel like im about to say a lie i stop and breath then speak. lately being honest has been getting easier and my girl is seeing the progress. but its still a daily struggle like i feel the need to ie kind of an addiction thats been slowly breaking

Congratulations on your progress . It is an addiction that will take time to break. If you do slip just correct it right away, this will also go a long way in showing you are fixing the problem.

thank you reading everyones posts and i read some threads on what to do and how to control it. its all been so helpful. its a tough habit but with these baby steps it will be a broken habit. keep your head up guys if i can take steps towards progress anyone can.