destroying me inside!

Let me start by saying that I am 21 and have always been a liar.I have never told anyone that I am a liar.
However, now its gone off the charts.
I have been with my husband 8 years and over that time have told him some crazy things. I lie just to lie sometimes. Its becoming natural, almost instinctual. I have come to the conclusion that he doesn't really know me because I have buried him in so many lies. However, I am too scared to tell him the truth, he would most likely divorce me. Please be someone who understands.

I can relate to you in a way. I'm 34 and have lied most of my life too. Ever since I can remember, really. I've lied to everyone I know and even lie to myself. Sometimes I think I even believe them. I've told my husband many lies, too. Some big, some small. Most of the time I lie so he gets off my back for something to avoid conflict, but then do what I want anyway. Very self destructive. I read some where on here that you can be a lying addict. I think I'm that. I lie about stupid stuff that doesn't even matter. My husbands gotten pretty good at figuring out when I lie, which is getting harder for me to get away with stuff. Sometimes I think ok, this is the one to end it all. So stupid. All the guilt your feeling had got to be getting to you. Honesty is always the best policy. Better said than done, right. If he truly loves you, this shouldn't break your relationship. You have to know if he truly loves you or your lies.

I am so good at lying, no one has caught me! I am not bragging in the slightest. Its just hard to come out and say I am dishonest...

You have to ask yourself, why am I lying? What is it that I'm trying to avoid? What is wrong with me that I don't think he'll like if I say the truth? It sounds like you guys were pretty young when you met. I bet he can forgive the lies and move on, but you'd have to stop lying so he can trust you again. I'm trying hard to stay honest. Its not always easy. My husband says I only think about me and no one else. He's right to an extent. My lies are very selfish. Your a sting person to have kept them for so long. I know you have it in you to tell the truth.

If you've been lying since such a young age chances are you don't even know yourself who you are to show others the real you.
I think that should be your first step after stopping telling lies. Take some time to find out who you really are. Tell him you have a problem and chances are he will help. He will probably be upset, confused and resentful when you tell him so be prepared. Write down what you want to say if you need to so you don't get sidetracked.

Thanks guys!
I have talked with him and we have decided to let it go and to start over. Surprisingly, he was not angry. He was happy I was honest. Thanks again for all the help and support!

Great to hear! Good luck on your new journey. Keep it honest from here on out and you'll have much less stress.