Definition of:Compulsive Lying

I am twenty years old. mY parents are currently going through a divorce because my dad was cheating on my mom. I can deal with that.
My real problem is that my dad lies about everything. I have told him time and time again that if he tells me the truth I won't love him any less or be nearly as hurt as if he lies to me. I have done some snooping I guess you can call it and found out my dad is leading a double life. There is more women then the one my mom knows about. I don't know how to help my dad know that he can be honest and no one will punish him or hate him. I have younger brother and sister and I am afraid that they are becoming liars too. If there is anything I can do please tell me.

I was dating this man for three years and he was always trying to make me jealous over this girl that he used to date and sometimes still keeps in touch with, he would tell me stories about this girl how sucessful,pretty, in shape etc. etc. etc. Then he had a mentally handicap sister, his dad was in prison for crimes with the government. How much money he had in the bank. Come to find out everything was a lie. I believed everything. I am devasted, angry, and hurt that someone you love and wants to marry you. Lies so easily right to your face like it's no big deal and then it's your problem that you have a issue with this, he even went to the extent to ruin a beautiful romantic evening by telling me he did not want any skeletons in his closet that they slept together seven years ago. He wanted to get that off his chest. I could go on and on about this subject.

He said to me. "It is done. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End. To him who is thirsty I will give to drink without cost from the spring of the water if life. He who overcomes will inherit all this, and I will be his God and he will be my son. But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolators and all liars---their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death." Rev 21:6-8

ALL LIARS. He didn't say some or just plain LIARS ...he said ALL liars. Do you see this ? You have to believe in something. If you believe in God well NOW you can't lie to God and say you didn't know this scripture...he just saw you read it.

If you are unbelieving then you don't believe in God you just believe in YOU. You want all the attention and you have been lied to also. LOOK....

"Why is my language not clear to you. Because you are unable to hear what I say. You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father's desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. Yet because I tell you the truth you do not believe me! Can any of you prove me guilty of sin. If I am telling the truth, why don't you believe me ? he who belongs to God hears what God says. The reason you do not hear is that you do not belong to God."

That is what Jesus said in John 8:43-47

You have to choose who you want to believe. If you have been promised popularity and joy by lying about stuff ...that has been a lie. You hate keeping up the fake life and being miserable on the inside.
If you're telling lies then you now know whose your daddy...the father of Lies.... Straight up Satan....

Yes it's obvious that lying is straight up EVIL.
It's when you L-I-V-E the wrong way...E-V-I-L. See it…clear as day.

It's not too late to change.. You will be greatly loved for it...You'll then see REAL love in action and you will be able to give real unconditional love in return and will realize it's not all about you. The people close to you want to know who you really are and can't wait to see you and trust you. You can't be afraid to come out now. They don't care about what you did or didn't do...Navy, Med School...blah, blah, blah...how does that change anything. If they start yelling just show them what you read here and then they'll calm down. Tell them the truth...do it now....you can't keep lying now that you have been informed based on scripture…the TRUTH....you really can't keep lying.

You can't undo what has happened in the past but you affect what happens next. If you have told someone that you were going to do something for them then do it as soon as possible...or come clean...

Just open your heart a little, a tiny opening is all it takes for God to enter and fix you right up. It's painless, no copay, he's always open....plus.....IT'S TOTALLY FREE !!!! I Don't know about you but that's my price.

You have a wonderful imagination and want some excitement in your life. BELIEVE THIS...Let GO AND Let GOD...Ask him to cleanse your soul and allow you only speak his language. Just say it..and believe it....no big show. You have to believe that he will deliver...because he will...pronto....You can't lie to him..he knows what is in your heart before you even ask.

We can handle the truth. They can handle it. Just do it and FINALLY LIVE !! A load will be off your tired shoulders...that's when God carrries all the terrible things you said, all the guilt, all the worry. Just say "I have a problem lying." and let him in. He only will come in if you ask him to. He never goes where he is not invited. Even if you don't think you have a problem lying it doesn't hurt to go through a little cleansing anyway. Maybe you told one and forgot about it.

Get ready for a wonderful life.


peace (itsjusan@bellsouth.net)

I really find the above reply very powerful. I have copied it and plan to print it for future readings. Thank you for it. I needed to hear it and will use it as a source of guide for myself and evertime I was to look back or reach back for something I have no business reaching back for I will remember this message.

Thank you again.

Coach wrote:I'm a liar on bulletin boards. It makes be feel llike a big man. I say I'm a football coach, and a wrestling coach, and a cop, and a gaming commisioner, and a Hell's Angel, and a Marine sniper in Viet Nam. Really I'm unemployed and I post on bbs all day. I like the rush of feeling important in the eyes of my bb friends.

How would it feel to *be* a "big man," rather than to believe you're a loser? To feel very good about yourself and who you are, rather than getting secondhand validation by duping a few dupes online?

A *real* "big man" takes responsibility for himself and his actions. He lives according to his innermost and highest values.

If you want a *real* rush, try working toward making yourself someone you can feel "big" about without anyone else's approval or admiration. It can be done.

Get a job and apply yourself to it. Take baby steps toward becoming the "big man" you are crying out to be.

Lying is an occupational hazard in politics. I don't know if it would fit into the definition of a disorder.

Lying in politics goes by many, many euphemisms, but its lying none the less.

Can anyone offer advice about a cure for this dreadful malady that infests professional politics?

Thanks.

I am so pleased to have found this website. I have just had a screaming row with my boyfriend. We've been together for 10 years and he lies about everything. Sometimes I want to leave him but I don't feel strong enough. We have an 8 year old girl, I don't have a close relationship with my family, and suffer from depression. My boyfriend has had terrible things happen in his life, which I know are true. But he's told some unbelievable lies. He swore on our daughter's life that he had Straight A's in his 'A' level exams, after I had found fail results and was waving them in his face. He lies about things I don't even care about, even find funny, like looking at porn. There is no need for him to lie, and still he does it. He told me when I first met him that his friend committed suicide in front of him, that his large natural family were adopted by his mother, he's lied about so much, from trivial things to major things like illness. Sometimes I feel I'm going mad because I want him to tell the truth and be 'normal'. The awful thing is, we have the same sense of humour, taste in music, and in many ways he is like my best friend. Please please someone reply with some advice - the main thing I want to know is - is there a cure for compulsive lying? What about hypnotism? I love my boyfriend a lot, but I am an open book and hate secrets. He had a fling with my best friend, but I forgave him for it because at the time I was pushing him away and telling him to leave and generally going through a hard time because of something seperate that I couldn't cope with. However, what scared me more than anything was his ability to lie with no signs of guilt. When it was over he just joined me in slagging her off. He sounds worse than he is when I write it down (or am I just waking up - I don't know anymore) - he really is a lovely bloke, really insecure, but loving and kind. I'd love any advice, thanks.

Hi
Im sorry to hear youre going thro it. I went thro it for a couple of years with my boyfriend, who initially, kept me in a relationship saying he was very ill. Unfortunately, what ive learned, is that until they really accept that they have a problem, there is no help. They have to truly want to change themselves, and, in my experience, when i confronted mine, and told him i wanted him to get help, he only said yes i will, as a way to get me back. Although he went to very extreme lengths to prove this, i couldnt get him to a therapist for love or money. Even now, hes lied again, and now hes telling me he is seeing a therapist, but, i dont believe him. We have split because i just cant face anymore mental torture and believe me, i have tried. sometimes they just dont see the damage they do. All i can say is if your partner truly wants to get help, and you watch him do it, (go with him to the therapist so he cant lie) then you have a fighting chance. This is a really deep seated illness that has probably been going on for years. Good luck to you.

Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. I will try to get him to seek therapy. I was at my wits end when I wrote the other evening, and know I will be again, yet when we are getting along I try to forget, I just want things to be ok, and I suppose to an extent I lie to myself, pretend that things are ok, so it was good to put my feelings into words. Thanks again for your reply, it means a lot to me, and I will let keep you updated.

I think the best thing you can do for your dad is encourage him to get counselling or therapy. The only way he's ever going to change is if he realizes that his compulsive lying is wrong and hurts people. He needs to figure out whay he does it and change his habit. When people lie and nobody sets them straight, they don't think its a problem. When there are no repercussions or punishment, they don't change because they don't see a reason. If he recognizes that his younger children may be beginning to lie like he does and he sees this could cause harm to themselves or others, this may cause him to see reason to change his ways.