Are compulsive liars overtly critical?

I think my mum is a compulsive liar, and she's always very critical of my social standings since I have none, as an AvPD. Is it normal for compulsive liars to be quite critical of other people at times? I think this criticism is what triggered my AvPD.

Hey,


I have never directly heard of Compulsive Liars being overtly critical. However, these people are 'compulsive' by nature and therefore the first thought that enters their head is usually the first that comes out. When you add that to the fact that the compulsive liar is a mother then criticism of her son/daughter would be more overt. A mother is naturally protective of her sons and daughters and it is common for a mother to be critical of how they live their lives. With a Compulsive Lying mother, the criticism might be more common.


I'm also AvPD and my mother is also critical of what I do. The fact that we live our lives differently from the way our mothers lived theirs and also live our lives differently from others our own age, makes the criticism doubly-common.


What I'm trying to do currently is convey to my mother that I don't care about living my life alone. It is actually working because she has ceased bugging me over it. I also just tell her straight-out whenever she is bothering me.


Kevster

Haha, thanks Chucky, I'll try that out with my mum and see what happens!

Hi there,

I'm new to the forum and I'm not totally sure if I'm writing this in the right place... so please correct me if i'm wrong.

I completely can empathise with you Lala2. My mum is a compulsive liar, not diagnosed as such, but all the evidence does point to it. She is extremely critical but I'm not sure if she realises it- it's harder to take from a parent. Sometimes she overtly defends and praises her kids in front of others, and it's all about making her look good, so for example, my daughter has done this, my son has done that etc etc "Aren't they great" yet on the otherhand in person and not in front of others it's very different. I've been reading a bit about compulsive lying on the internet, of course I cannot trust all sites... (trust being the issue haha) but it seems that a lot of people have experienced the critical side of compulsive lying although it's not always the case.

I'm lucky now not to live too close to my mother, and it's made a huge difference to my life. I feel a lot more independent but the ol' emotional blackmail unfortunately crosses any distance, so I'm still trying to work on that one.

I hope you are well,

Best wishes,