I am in love with a compulsive liar

I need help and advice, my boyfriend is a compulsive liar. From the start he has lied to me about everything, this has caused alot of fights and arguments, especially since we live together. Somehow we have managed to stay together for alomst a year now. I love him, I know he has lying issues I am in no ways blind to that fact but I love him anyways. He has awlays been a job hopper, he cant keep a job at all, not only does he lie but he steals, stupid things really food drinks, hats things like that. He then found a job he loved, he got hired at a construction company and he glowed with pride, it was obvious he was happy, we both were. He stopped stealing, his lying slowed to barely anything, He kept up all the lies he has told me from the start, part of me wonders if he even believes them, I dont think he realises I know they are lies. Anyway winter came and he got laid off after almost two months, for around two weeks he continued with his almost no lies, he had high hopes of a new contract starting. When it became obvious that wasnt happening he started lying again, hanging out with people who lie and steal and party and everything that goes with that alot. Then a couple nights ago, we got into a fight cause he lied about something obvious, but that would cause him to leave the house for an hour he said. I got upset as it was my day off and our time together, which had become more rare now that i was supporting us alone again. He took off for five hours, called me broke up with me said he couldnt handle all our fighting. Called me back 10 min later said we would talk the next day that he didnt want to talk over the phone but that he was not coming back that night. Next day I wait all day crying and upset for him to call me, he calls breaks up again, then says he would stop by today to talk. He came today at a time he thought I worked, to get clothes and sell his car for scrap. We talked for about 15, he then says he still loves me and wants to date me but that he needs to live 45min out of town with his friend cause of work. He does not have the job he said he has, I know this is a lie. He said he would call me later tonight. He then proceeded to try to steal my phone, I looked for it stoped him before he left the driveway and asked him where he put it as he used it. He then got all defensive stormed in and found it in a place I know it was not because I looked 2 times, on silent, I had it on full volume.He then left, leaving me no way to contact him, just suppose to wait for henever he contacts me. I love him still, I think he loves me back. I have no clue why he is actually staying away and avoiding me, if maybe he got into trouble and he is hiding or if he just got scared that we are so young and I know him, not the lies him, and our relatonship has been getting very serious. But I know this is a bunch of lies and I dont know how to work through these ones. The other ones I managed, not all there is still quite a bit about his past I know is a lie. I dont care. I love him and want to help not only him but us. The only problem is I am out of ideas on how. And I have no idea how to find out what is actually going on, or if he just really is done with me. If you have any ideas on what could be going on, or on how to help him with his lying please let me know. I just want to help him.

Hi Lost Girl,
You are in a very troubling situation. I can feel that. My heart goes out to you.

The sad thing is is that unless and until your boyfriend is ready to stop lying, there is nothing anyone can do. A lying addict has to want to be helped before anyone can help him or her. There are things you can do for yourself though and that is get clued up on what it is you are dealing with. Information is power. To that end, here are numerous posts I wrote about what lying addiction is; why lying addicts lie; the day to day lives of lying addicts; the day to day lives of the loved ones of lying addicts and finally, how to stop lying when a lying addict is at that stage. I know this information will help you...

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BIG HUG,
Billi

Thank you, I will be sure to read all of them.