someone pls give me some answers

hey iam a 21 year old male
ive had a lying problem for a long time now
i remember it started around high school time.i had just moved too canada and i had made some good friends already,but i dont know why i was lying.my best friend noticd it for a long time and tride too help me and give me some good advice.I lied too him and told him ill stop. i just lost my girldfriend who i was with for 4 years,basicly all my fun years of life.i lost her cause she caught on too my compulsive lying.i lie about really stupid stuff. like stuff i did the night befor too make the other pson jelous i guess. but i know i need some seriuos help.cause in these years that ive been lying my self esteem has done really really low.i cant eavin speak too women anymore i just get nervous and try not too lie too them but i just get nervous and think that iam lower then evryone eles.

Heya,


I am sorry for this late reply and I hope that you still frequent these forums. You are certainly not lower than everyone else. During school, when every kid is trying to find their own particular group, lying is likely to occur. It's a race to the top - People want to be the best and they want others to know about it too.


As an adult now you are aware that the lying is proving to be detrimental to your life. I think you just need to refine the way you speak to people though. Once you enter a conversation in a different way, you stand a better chance of not lying. Essentially, don't do what you normally do.


When you talk to a girl appreciate her presence and tell her what you like about her: Her clothes, her hair, her smile, and her eyes. Also, ask her many questions whose answers you are genuinely interested in knowing.


Kevin.