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need help to understand how i should feel

Postby guest » Thu Nov 10, 2005 3:12 pm

can anyone tell me what label i should put on this i need a name to call it ?when i was 5 or so , a boy a yr older then me was my friend , we played with each other at first , then he wanted to take our clothes off and try to have sex, he would lay on me and try to put it in me ( i dont know if he did enter me ) he would hold his.. and try to get it in me , this happened many times over many months , i know it was wrong but i never stopped him i wished he would do it buti never stopped him, i remember i didnt want it to happen i just wanted to be friends i remember it didnt feel good to me but he would just keep tring,i remember hurting not sure if it was what he was doing or the places he did it to me . i need to know what to call it put a name to it can anyone help me? :?:
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Postby Butterfly Faerie » Thu Nov 10, 2005 6:23 pm

It is sexual abuse hon. He tried to do things to you that you did not want to do.... I'm sorry that happened to you.

Please take care of yourself.
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Postby Angel » Fri Nov 11, 2005 1:10 am

you were 5 and he was 6? I'm not so sure if sexual abuse was the proper label. I think you were both victims here.....it's not unusual for children to experiment w/ their bodies at that age. At that young age you really start to take notice of your body...kids are in school together...they are role playing....playing "house"...playing married, etc. I have a 4yr. old who likes to play "married"....this summer my neighbor and I caught my daughter and her 4yr. old son holding hands and kissing on the mouth. They said so innocently they were just playing "married" and kissing like their mommy and daddys do. Obviously we had a talk w/ each of our kids about what is ok to do and what is not ok!

What you went through was very unfortunate. What prompted your friend to take things to that level....who knows. Could be he was being abused. could be he was never abused but overly curious for his age...maybe he saw things on tv or even saw something w/ his own parents and was trying to act that out. I really don't know. and I'm NO PROFESSIONAL in this area either. I'm just offering my take on things. I mean....a 6yr. old simply does not know right from wrong. Especially if they are never taught about their bodies and what sort of things are right and wrong. You mentioned you felt it was wrong....but then I'm guessing your knowledge of that goes to the credit of your parents.

I'm not sure if sexual abuse is the right label here. See to me...putting that label on it implies that this little boy set up a sitaution and knew what he was doing was wrong, etc. etc. I think you were both in an unfortunate situation. I'm sorry you had to go through that and now have to deal w/ memories of it. I wish I had a better answer for you. I'm not really sure what label to put on this one.
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