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going to court?

Postby lilyyM » Fri Jul 08, 2011 5:06 am

I am a teenage girl and I was physically and sexual abused by my father for 9 years. but I told someone and he's going to court in a week. I’m just wondering what its like? will I have to talk to him? will someone be asking me questions? will they have like witnesses?
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Re: going to court?

Postby onthebrink » Fri Jul 08, 2011 2:11 pm

The best person to talk to, and to prepare you for what it will be like in court, is the prosecutor. If you ask questions in advance, you will feel more prepared and less fearful. But it is a safe assumption that you will be asked questions in open court. The truth is nothing to fear.
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Re: going to court?

Postby GEORGE789 » Sun Jul 31, 2011 1:55 am

In going to court you become public, known to all for the crime your father did.If this is an action on your part to free yourself of your father's unhealhty interest in you, i would ask ,is it the best course of action for your long term mental attitude to resumeing a normal life? Ask ten psychiatrist an opinion on an issue ,you will get ten different answers. Criminaliseation of your father can become an act of revenge.His life will be damaged forever, as will your life change.I feel that in some instances the welfare people have their own status to maintain and is not necessarily in the 'protected' persons interest.In my own situation i found that the welfare people were more interested in the destruction of a family unit than in attempting to bring about an understanding and reconciliation of the offence.
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Re: going to court?

Postby 4horsegal » Mon Aug 08, 2011 4:52 am

You don't become that public.
Hearings can be closed to the public and kept out of the news. Most hearings involving children are kept closed. Best to talk to your prosecutor.
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Re: going to court?

Postby pheonixrise » Mon Aug 08, 2011 1:39 pm

It takes a lot of courage to speak up, good on you for doing that.

Was there a particular detective or police officer in charge of the case? He or she would be the best person to ask questions, or the prosecutor.

In court, you will not have to talk to him. In some places, you won't even have to be in the same room as him. I don't know what country you are from, but in Australia, they can set up a screen somehow so that the survivor doesn't have to see the abuser at all, or the survivor can wait in a different room, or the survivor can be asked questions over a video/audio thing, so that they don't have to set foot in the same place as the abuser at any time during the case.

You will probably be asked questions by the prosecutor (that's the lawyer on your side of the case) and the defense lawyer (the person on his side of the case).

They may have a jury. Depending on your age, they may close the court so that the only people in there are the jury, the legal people (lawyers, judge, etc) and any other people who will be asked questions about the case.

GEORGE789 wrote:the welfare people were more interested in the destruction of a family unit

An abuser destroys their family. Regardless of what welfare did or did not do in your situation, it was the abuser who is responsible for the destruction of the family.

ETA: have just noticed the date you posted this thread! So by now, providing the case started when it was meant to, you'll already know the answers to your questions. How did it go?
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