Hi
I'm new to the forum, and need a bit of help.
My dad has always been argumentative and hot-tempered. This is made worse when he's had a drink. He has called me names and made horrible comments about me (e.g. my weight, my intelligence etc) and it has gone on as long as I can remember.
Recently I had finished a job contract and moved back in with my parents. Since then he's made comments about why I haven't got a job yet (I have been on several interviews), why can't I just go to the job centre and get a bar job, why am I spending money if I'm not earning etc. Last night, he asked if I was pissed (I had a few drinks yes, but was sitting quietly and not making a show) and then started shouting about not having a job, and that I am being snobby about getting a bar job (I have a PhD, and would be far too overqualified) and why I haven't got a job with my 'fancy qualification'. Then my mum came and stood up for me, and my dad tried to act the victim saying 'yet again I'm the villian' as if everyone was attacking him
I'm caught between a rock and a hard place; up until now, I have kept my dad at arms length to protect myself. Now I can't get away so easily from his abuse