Mom abuse...

I am a 15 year old male who does pretty good in school and who never gets into trouble. I am a shy kid but I have friends. I live with my mom but have been staying at my dads house every other week. My mom is a “special” person. She frequently yells and screams at me, then calls me all types of curse words and physically hurts me. For example, she would ask me, “why aren’t the dishes washed” I would say I just washed them yesterday I though they were all clean. She would say, “is that base in your voice” meaning am I yelling. I would say no but she continues to antagonize me and calls me a bitch. I would get frustrated because she purposely picks with me and I would say “no.” She would say I sense that you have an attitude. “You got me ###$ up.” I would say what did I just do? She says, “I’m beating your ass.” She then comes in with cans from the kitchen and attamelts to throw them at me, I of course run around trying not to get hit. Over the years, she has assaulted me with Cans, Utensils, Broomsticks, chokes me, slaps me, yells at me, and hits me with glass bottles. Whenever I tell my dad, he says there is no way your mother does all of that. My mom constantly says I have an attitude but I don’t! My mom just gets pissed off at me for no apparent reason, but my dad thinks I’m lying. She also takes my phone because of “attitude” often so I can’t record her behavior. Also, no one believes me when I tell them she hurts me. It’s been going on for years and sometimes I just cry and go to school every day looking sad. People ask me what’s wrong, but I don’t respond.

If a female reports abuse, either child abuse or domestic violence she will get sympathy. If a male reports domestic violence he will most likely get derision.

Can I ask how you feel about your mother ??

This stuff hurts more if you still love them.

It may have happened already or it may be yet to come, but that may stop. It is often easier to handle being abused if you have already emotionally left the building. It will not help with the feeling of how unfair it is, or that how does one respect authority and social boundaries when you are experiencing life clearly outside the norm.

When did it start ??

When did your dad leave ??

With your dad he may be trying to downplay it, as it is may be incredibly hard to change right now (unless it becomes life threatening). He may have adjusted his own boundaries. My own father lived in a mad house, and it was like a boiling frog. It just got a little worse bit by bit. He himself changed and could not see how incredibly bad it was. (how many times does someone have to try and kill you until you realise it).

Did he leave her or did she leave him ??

and the good news is that you will be out of there soon. Do your best at school, keep your motivation to succeed and beat this and you will.