Abusive parents.

I was abused by my mother and step father (who I considered my father). My dad was physically abusive when I was little, and my mother wasn't abusive.. although she did allow my dad to abuse me. Then as I got older my mother became emotionally and physically abusive and my dad stopped his abuse, and it literally turned my world upside down. I have gone no contact with my mother, and my life has been better because of it, but I feel like a piece of me is empty/hurt still. Has anyone successfully cut a parent out of their life and not felt empty/sad anymore?

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You can cut them out of your life succesfully, which you seem to be totally in the right to do, yet you'll inevitably have to deal with the impirnt they've engraved upon your unconscious.

So no matter how much you try to erase their likeness out of your life physically, you'll still have to deal with their shadows which'll continue to linger in the recesses of your unconscious for as long as you don't fully heal from the wounds they've caused you.

The other thing is society is built around that model. You are continually reminded that your model is broken.

and yep, you can successfully cut them out.

theblacksheep09 wrote:I have gone no contact with my mother, and my life has been better because of it, but I feel like a piece of me is empty/hurt still. Has anyone successfully cut a parent out of their life and not felt empty/sad anymore?

I have very limited contact with my mom. She is toxic, to say the least. I have been successful almost two years. Some days it's hard but my sister tells me stories of how she is unchanged and I am glad I have stayed away. I really believe it's a process. You feel sad sometimes and you feel empty too. I feel that's normal because that's how I've felt. I can't speak for others. My life is more peaceful and I am happier. When I feel happy, she can't "rain on my parade," so to speak. She is such a downer in my life. I have not cut her out completely from my life. But about 90% of the time, yes, she is out of my life. Good luck.