What should I do?

Hey everyone, I am new to this forum Let me share my story. I am 13 years old, and my parents are nearly divorced (they live in different cities). My brother and I stayed with our mom, ever since 4th grade. She is the pushy type of mom, who "forces" me to study study study. I love her, but sometimes she can go overboard with punishments, etc. In fourth and fifth grade, if I got a bad score, she might spank me, which might not seem bad. In sixth grade, things got even worse. We moved overseas, while my dad remained in the US. My grades started to slip a little, and I spend more time playing computer games. My mom and I had more arguments, and she started to show a little more physical violence. She would push me around, force me against the wall, and slap me a bit. After only one year, we moved back to a different city in the States, and I started seventh grade there. My grades were at the worst they have ever been (C), and my Mom and I argued nearly all the time. She would slap me, scratch me, and throw things at me. However, I will admit now that I have pushed her around in self defense, and I kind of regret that now. Now, in eight grade, I became taller and stronger than she was. She would continue with the physical and verbal "abuse". I would have scratch marks for a few days, or small bruises on my legs. This may seem complicated, but there were 2 events that led to me posting on this forum. First, I logged into Skype on my mom's phone. I haven't used it in a month or two, but I did it anyways. Then, I left to do something else, and the phone vibrated (it got a notification from Skype). A message appeared, and my mom saw it. Apparently, according to her, it had swearing in it. She thinks that I was Skyping with some random strangers, despite the fact I haven't used it in a while. Second (a month later), just now, we had the biggest argument ever, where she took my computer and decided to read a chat I had with a girl at my school. We are just friends, there is no other relationship whatsoever. We argued, we fought, and my mom called my dad for help. My dad lectured me over the phone, but I ignored him. After finishing reading the chat, my mom thought I had some weird relationship, and said she would talk to the girl's parents tomorrow at school. Then, we argued some more (a lot of arguing ), until the point where she hit me over the head with a laptop, and then with her phone. Now there are bumps and bruises on my head. I would like to remind you guys that I still love my mom, and I have done some pretty disrespectful things too. But what should I do, and does this count as child abuse???

Dear KM48:

I didn't see your thread until now and I am sorry you didn't get a reply so far.

Yes, of course, your mother hitting you is physical abuse. Absolutely. She has no right to do that. And you hitting her in self defense is just that, self defense, not abuse.

She should control her anger and stop abusing you!!!

atina