What do I do?

My mum is so nice to me, she supports me when I tell her about my anxiety and she isn't a strict parent in terms of me having friends over and such. However, when she gets angry, she's very angry, and has never hurt me physically but she shouts curses and calls me bad things, also she makes me feel guilty, to the point that I'm beginning to suspect maybe I am just being rude to her without realising. The other day she was arguing with my sister and I told her to hurry up, in response to this she screamed and told me to 'piss off' so I ended up walking to my dads house in the rain and dark.
Afterwards she apologised but I'm getting tired of this. She also shouted at me and told me I have mental problems today, because I have an addiction to trying to make my hair parting straight. I just don't know what to do, as she's still my mum and when she's nice, she's really nice, so I do love her.

Dear KatieMay:

There is no attachment emotion stronger than the attachment of a child to the mother. it is biologically determined to be so. Animals feel this: it is this attachment that motivates the fawn to follow its mother into the woods. Wherever the mother goes, the fawn goes.

Human children continue to feel this attachment no matter what the mother does. Often, the more hurtful the mother to the child, the stronger the child's attachment.

It is wrong and abusive of your mother to scream at you, to curse you, to insult you as she has. The fact that she does it when she is angry still qualifies it as abuse. It is a person's responsibility to not abuse another even though feeling angry.

You need to protect yourself from your mother's abuse, whatever it takes. I understand the strong, natural attachment, but whatever you can do to protect yourself. I don't know if you live with her and how old you are. If you can move out, do move out. If you meet her and she is angry and starts being abusive, leave her and the situation. Also tell her: Stop! This is no okay to abuse me!

I am so sorry you are going through what so many children and adult children are going through. I went through such and it damaged my ... brain and life more than I can tell you.

atina