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Can abuse lead to Masochism?

Postby Nambo » Mon Nov 30, 2015 9:45 pm

If the only interaction a young child has with its parents involves pain, fear, terror, humiliation and hatred, can this lead to Masochism in the adult?
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Re: Can abuse lead to Masochism?

Postby Terry E. » Tue Dec 01, 2015 5:50 am

I have often wondered about this.

Tales of UK MPs visiting bondage dungeons, (all that good boarding school upbringing).

Personally I can't see it as such treatment would be triggering.

But in certain cases there maybe something there.
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Re: Can abuse lead to Masochism?

Postby Nambo » Tue Dec 01, 2015 11:58 am

Terry E. wrote:I have often wondered about this.

Tales of UK MPs visiting bondage dungeons, (all that good boarding school upbringing).

Personally I can't see it as such treatment would be triggering.

But in certain cases there maybe something there.


I did get to go for a meal with a famous Dominatrix who did confirm a lot of her clients worked at the Houses of Parliament.
My view is that if you learn "Love" to be only expressed in terms of abuse, that your adult emotional ID will be programmed to desire love in this way.
Sexual desire can transform and divert the "triggering" into a very intense sexual experience.
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Re: Can abuse lead to Masochism?

Postby Arazia » Wed Dec 02, 2015 5:38 am

i think so. i've met other abuse victims who are this way. i personally am not submissive due to abuse, but sometimes i get urges to be submissive with those who remind me of abusers. i think that's a different topic entirely, though.

i think it's common, but a difficult topic to cover as it would make people who aren't abuse victims (or even those who are, but just don't experience this) say that those who experience this like being abused.

Personally I can't see it as such treatment would be triggering.

reactions to abuse are complicated and vary so much, i think. everyone reacts in different ways. for example, someone may be dominant because they hate being the submissive one due to abuse. but another may be submissive because they were taught to be for so long.
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