Chinese/Asian parents, abuse or a different culture?

I'm not sure if this is the best topic to post under, but I wasn't sure where else to post it.

My question is not just/primarily about abuse, but abuse is part of it.

It's more about culture and if different cultures can result in different (VALID) interpretations.

Anyway, my reason for thinking about this is that I've recently figured out, my mother is probably a narcissist.

She is also Chinese.

That makes me wonder, how much of how she is is because she's Chinese? Or, is she still different from most Chinese people (I haven't spent a lot of time around Chinese people)? Are most Chinese parents not narcissists, while my mother is?

In other words, how are the ways in which Chinese culture, my mother, and narcissism (especially regarding narcissistic parents) intersect?

I'm especially interested in talking with other folks who (preferably are American, but if you're Asian or from another non-American culture, I'm open to your thoughts) have Chinese or Asian parents, and who have had psychological problems related to / because of their parents.

If you're Asian and want to provide an Asian perspective, I'm open, too. (Although I will probably take what you say with a grain of salt.)

Btw, I HAVE READ the Amy Chua article and a lot of stuff about it. My parents were not like her in that they didn't force me to practice piano for five hours a day and stuff, but my mother was like her in subtler ways. (The narcissism thing, essentially, even for different things from Amy Chua.)

I'm more interested in perspectives that are not directly about the Amy Chua article, although of course if your own experience is related to stuff from her article, please talk about whatever you want to talk about.

And feel free to message me if you're not that comfortable responding publicly.

My best friend's mother is from China and her father is from Poland. Her mother is incredibly hard to deal with and she lashes out, compares her children to herself, insults them and expects perfection. It's as if she doesn't love her kids at all. I'm sure part of it is culture, but that's the thing -- I have other Chinese friends and Asian friends in general who do not have parents that act like this. The culture has high standards for the children and the kind Asian parents that I've witnessed SUPPORT their kids as opposed to the aforementioned mother who pretty much just harasses them.

Not here nor there commentary, but it has always struck me how few people sit back and consider why their own culture does what they do. It's always something that I'm struggling to understand as far as cultural differences go.