Long-term Consequences of Child Abuse, and Neglect

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Thank you ICU for having some self control. Good for you. Its hard to do for us all, I know.
I think humor can sometime be like Armour for people who have so much empathy it frightens them. Perhaps I am wrong, But I think that it might be so in your case.
I read a post by you a while back where you mentioned that your sisters were abused. I don't recall you saying if you had, but being a brother to loved ones who had been abused had to leave you with a pain difficult to cope with.
I may be way off base, tell me if I am. But this forum might be of help to you too.
With Hope,
One

Abuse and neglect are very tragic/taumatic. I see abuse and neglect cases every week as a foster parent. These children did not ask for this and it will/has changed their life forever. What really matters is how they deal with it and to outcome later in life. Many of these kids require extensive therapy and psychological testing to begin building a life without pain or the lack of social contacts. I'm saying all this to explain the sensitive nature of abuse. i was even abused as a child, yet I did not turn out to be abusive or neglectant of my children. I am actually very nuturing and understanding with our children, not so much with adults though. Yes, I am still dealing with being sexually abused some 30 years later and has probably contributed to my mental illness, which does not affect the raising of our children. I am very protective of my children and very selective about who they hang out with to keep them out of harms way.

My wife and I are tough love parents and yes, it does work with children/teens that have not had any structure in their lives and have been abused. The object is not to be an drill sergant, rather a teacher figure. Some lessons are harder to learn than others but as parents our job is to prepare our children for the future. To raise them to be independent productive citizens. This is accomplished by a set structure.

There must be time for nurturing, protecting, teaching and disipline (non-abusive). At younger ages, children often need a spat on the hand to protect them from harm (there is no reasoning with a child under 6). As the child gets older the rules obviously change and so do the consequences. THERE ARE NO PERFECT PARENTs AND NO PERFECT WAY TO RAISE A CHILD!
Parents make mistakes and hopefully learning from them. Abuse and neglect is not the answer though. FYI, Abuse and neglect are defined as physical signs of wrong doing. (bruises, broken arms, filthy house, rapid loss of weight, clothed imporperly for the weather, etc). If the physical signs aren't there, there will never be an abuse/neglect investigation.

What on earth do you mean about a child needing a "Spat" the hand? And that you can't reason with a child under 6?
I certainly can, and it doesn't involving having to do anything to their hand either.
One

Hi guys, this is a really nice topic and great discussion for my research, school stuff. I wondered if abused children would grow to become serial killers/offenders. Because of the factors such as humiliation and rage that have bottled up in them.
My research topic is "Discuss the effects of early childhood traumas on people’s behaviours" I have found some other results of this topic through googling.
But few of them show maybe the after-effect of them being serial-offenders. So what do you think? The rage and humiliation bottled in the people who suffers in their childhood want to pass their pain to others. Does the Long-term Consequences of Child Abuse, and Neglect affects this behavior in their adult age or could the mass-media be involved too? Share your thought and thanks.

Do you have issues of abuse? Perhaps yourself or someone you know? I ask because you are welcome to share your own struggles here.
This is a support forum,and it is not designed for voyeurs who just want to ask questions for a school project. That, in my opinion would be disrespectful to peoples real life struggles. I am hopeful that your intentions here are for more than a good grade.
One

I agree with one, we are here for support not be picked like rats, yet I will answer your questions.

I do think that some children that have been abused and neglected have a strong tendecy to commit crimes or have severe psychological social problems. Take psychopaths for a moment, you will find that most to all psychopaths and serial killers had to face the dangers of abuse, neglect, bullying and trauma. Does this mean that every child in these situations will become a freak of society*, absolutely not. Humans have the ability to overcome such things in their lives and make good decisions for the remainder of their lives. For the children/adults that are facing psychological problems, they will need intense psychotherapy and medications to stablize and curve their behaviors, behaviors that could harm theirselves or others.

*freak of society: not mentioned to offend anyone, but this is how it feels on the inside. I know this personally, because i'm becoming one and i'm working with my docs to help me sort all of this out.

Thanks for the reply, wilsn. And i am really sorry for making use of a support forum as a aid for good grade.
Took me quite a long time to post this but I want to share the side of my story.When I was young, constantly getting physically abused by my father. Watched my parents quarrel that ended up either in broken TV sets or physically abuse again. Watched my father puked over the room after he drink, exposed to pornography at age of 10.
I like watching Gore video or pictures because it makes me feel calm. I don't mean to come into a forum and ask a few questions, take screenshots and post into my powerpoint slide. I just want to share what i am.

Hi again,
It took courage for you to share that. Well done! So is your original question about mental illness and murderers connected to the abuse you lived with when you were young?
Was that question more personal than just a school project? Or perhaps you are really looking for a safe place to talk about how you feel about your up bringing?
This place is great for those who have Illnesses. But it is also great for just placing your thoughts down and finding out that your fears are something others share. Everyone here has a dark past and is doing just that.
You are oh so welcome to talk more about your past. No one will judge you, and you can have a ton of support here!
With Hope,
One

I am not really used to sharing my past or story with anyone. I don't even think anyone around me knows about this. Actually the school work isn't that difficult, it is just about childhood traumas link to adult behavior or not. And personally, i liked to read about the biography of serial murderers. Such as Andrei Chikatilo.
And I don't think i will bring up the school work anymore, just in case there are more people who will do the same.