The anxiety not to be accepted..

For 7 years I had to stand bullying at school and for month at work. I think that happened because I was too unsure because of everything I had to go through in my childhood.
Since the bullying I have been lacking in self- confidence much more then before up to now. I´m too anxious not too be accepted of the people. And there are more or less people who don´t accept me really: because of my anxiety. Is there anyone who knows that feeling or anyone who can give me some helpful tipps?

hi there, dont worry I definately know how you feel. I was bullyed mostly throughout my highschool years, sometimes even by the whole class. I now feel paranoid, and scared of other people. But the truth is you cant let the past hit you. If people at work are still doing this to you than speak up! its not you, its them. Belive in yourself. My best tip for you is to see a counciler about it, it helped me throughout my anxiety.

I have to also agree that a counsellor would help. After every session with my counsellor a few years ago I walked away feeling quietly confidant about myself.


You can get out of this by the way - You will not forever be feeling bad. You must also not accept some person into your life if they cause you mental pain. Do not take crap from anybody. Generate some mental firepower and take a stance.

I'll go against the flow here, and say that unless you are seriously intent on staying with this particular company, get the h*ll out as fast as you can.

We have scars that run so deep, the last thing we need is to be bullied again in adulthood.

Seek counselling, by all means. But protect your mental health above all. Being bullied and ridiculed is a toxic environment to work in for anyone, but for a survivor of childhood bullying, I would worry about the danger of re-evoking those old demons.

Yeah, I'd sling my guitar over my shoulder and pack it out of there a.s.a.p.

My support to you.