How do you deal with random people bullying you

I am here on the psych forum, but whos the crazy one really? Is the guy that shouts out ignorant remarks on his balcony to show off in front of his buddy the crazy one? Or am I the crazy one for wanting to ######6 pound that guys face in? I mean im living in the Twilight zone here folks... I can't even go somewhere with my family on fathers day without having some loud mouthed punk shout out rude remarks at me and my parents! Do these people not have fathers? This mother #####& was at least 30 years old... man I wanted to beat his face in so bad. I always avoided my bullies in highschool. I always walked away because I thought I was the better man. I just don't have faith in people anymore. I feel like it has always been me agaisnt the world and nobody has any respect anymore! It gets me so riled up! For a guy to be doing that at his age... makes me really lose hope for humanity. This is the average 30 year old. A loud mouthed frat boy dick head that does too much blow and shouts out ignorant remarks to families off of his balcony. I hope he sits on a ######6 cactus lol.

Taylormeister, it seem to me that a large number of people in society today, have little respect for their fellow humans. I see the 'dog-eat-dog' attitude every day, and that isn't even in the business world. That is on the streets. I even find myself on the other end of people who have little respect. Only this morning, I was crossing a road, and the car which was approaching, seemed intent on not giving me enough time to get to the other side of the road. I really felt like screaming at them.

With regards to someone who is actively being a bully, I would suggest resisting reacting, as that makes you the better person. If you react, you are in effect lowering yourself to the bully's standards - which don't sound too high!

For some reason I never get bullied in real life, I'm a petite, kind and shy person (female), however it was a shock to be the target of bullying on the internet.

I'm interested in a specific sport and have during the years left many boards because of becoming the victim of bullying. At some point the negativity is too much to handle, especially since people don't interfere. So I have started over and over again on new boards until a bully starts to abuse me.

It's very easy for me to defend people and stand up for my opinions, but when the attack is personal I can't handle it. I can't defend myself, only try to reason with the bully until once again seeing that it doesn't help at all. So I leave and try to focus on something positive to get rid of the negativity.

I don't know what feds me up more, the bully or the bystanders? Because I'm sick and tired of hearing from them how I should grow a thicker skin and not take things personally. The majority doesn't usually want me to leave but what choice do I have?!?

Why is it so difficult for bystanders online to just defend the one who is abused for no reason? Instead of telling me how I should feel and how I have overreacted, because most bystanders would be crushed if the attack was on them.

As for the OP, I live in a small country where people don't bully, they show respect. But I have heard how in some countries there is this blatant staring and shouting from strangers, adult men, to people they see. I can't even imagine what that feels like

Hi LoveAndLight. I've been on forums where people bullied. On a couple where I made someone angry by something I said, and got CHASED around the site, people just waiting for me to post, so they could jack with me. I never expected people to come to my rescue. When other people were bullied, very occasionally, I would step in, or sometimes I would just post support to the one being attacked. I have watched from the sidelines before, simply because I try to carefully pick my battles. I may be a little detached from it, because I feel that if it's not women being abused physically, or helpless children...online, its a choice. It's that other person's journey, not mine.

Just like LoveandLight, I am more bothered by bystanders who do nothing to stop the bully and support the one attacked. I also hate herding instinct in people when they gang up against one person. I think that only lowest type of cowards do that.

To stick with the topic though, I deal with random bullying differently. I haven't been bullied for a long time though. When it was happening, I did what each individual situation called for. Sometimes I'd ask for help, sometimes I'd attack back, sometimes I'd ignore. One thing I learned very early on is that you can't reason with the bully. When you try to do that, it makes you more vulnerable and unprotected. They can be stopped only by the force that is stronger then them or when they see that they can't get a reaction from you, that they can't "get" you. Overtime, this has become less of an issue for me because I have developed a protective shield around me in general, not only against bullies. I think this largely works on the energy level. When we are vulnerable and feel unprotected inside, we project that energy on the outside and bullies pick up on that. I notice that when my energy changed, I had less and less encounters with bullies...

WM

I personally have a problem with the ganging up. What a bunch of pussies. however, the fact that the bully needs people to gang up on you with him is a sign that he is a weak chump that needs a good slap across the face. Watch him cry like a little baby.