Completely CONFUSED!!

Ok i'm new here, and this is what i experienced last night and i'm completely confused by it and i don't know who's right and who's wrong!
There is this girl i know from like back in Grammer school. I am now friend s with her on FB 20 years or so later. Back in Grammer school she used to bully me. As in her and her friends ganged up on me, surrounded me, trapped me and threatened to beat me up. We were kids back, and I have gotten over it.
Last night i was on FB, and i saw a picture she had posted about bullying, and how it made her soo sad, and that she was totally against it!...so i thought to myself.. really? what a hypocrite! I debated for a while whether or not to post something back to her. I posted back, "umm.. and who threatned to beat up who in grammer school when we were kids?"
I was still annoyed at her hypocritical behavior... so i went into a different forum i visit to vent my feelings about it to my friends on there.. and after i explained everything.. i basically got jumped on, and was told that by me confronting her about her behavior, even though it was way back when, that i was just as bad as she was and that i was bullying her and i should just 'get over it"!!
I was soo taken aback by this reaction! Why were they siding with her, when she was the one who was the bully, and now being a hypocrite aobut it, and i'm expected to just forget that anything happened back then??? At least that's they way they seemed to be saying! and then on top of that to turn around and call ME the bully????? I don't understand this at all!!
All i was basically doing was reminding her about how she shouldn't do one thing and then turn around and say something different, even if it was 20 years in between! To me, in my mind and opinion, it's jsut not right!! Then i go to vent my frustrations at her actions and instead get accused of bullying myself and that i was trying to "feel superior" over her??? In my mind, i feel like I'm right!, but others say that what i did was wrong! So was i right or wrong to do what i did? Somebody help me out here, cause i'm completely CONFUSED!!

Hello KrazyKitty, you are obviously deeply effected by the bullying you went through at school, and that is totally understandable. Unfortunately, bullies don't take on the emotions of how their actions effect the person they are bullying. Have you ever had counselling to talk through how you feel about what you went through.

Unfortunately for you, time moves on in the world of the bully, and they forget the damage they have caused in peoples lives, and she could actually be feeling uneasy about the fact that you have contacted her on an open 'platform' and have highlighted the fact that she bullied you at school. She may have made a group of friends on this online meeting place, and they are not aware of what she did in her past. As she has now grown up, she may have matured and her attitudes towards bullying may have changed.

I think you need to cease communication with this woman, and allow yourself time to heal. Please remember, social networks can be a place to meet people, and catch up with old friends, but it can also be a place for bullies to torment innocent people.

I have one thing to say to the op.... it's NOT YOUR FAULT. hugs.

I personally don't see a problem with reminding a bully of their past actions if its done not done in a spiteful or thretening manner. I certainly don't blame you for still feeling emotional about her actions, even after a long period of time. In many cases the negative effects of being frequently bullied at school have been shown to persist into adult life, including physical & mental health problems (especially anxiety & depression), and high levels of loneliness and impaired relationships which are probably linked to difficulties with trust and reluctance to become involved in intimate relationships. So bullying is certainly a serious issue, even for adults. If shes against bullying as she claims to be, then she may even feel a great deal of regret & remorse about her past actions.