Please read me.

I have a problem.
The problem is I don't have respect around the hood by some individuals.
One of them is younger than me,much younger...15 or so. Every time we encounter down the street he says some thing,most usually "(my name) of (my mothers name)". Now I had the opportunity to slap him when he was much younger. But I never wanted to beat people.Just not in my nature. Now he's growing up. This can't keep going. I don't know how to act.
There are some options;
1.) Talk to him...Reason why I won't do that is because he is unreasonable.End of story.
Let me tell you one episode i saw with him. He insulted someone from his mother. This some one grabbed him and slapped/punched/kicked him. Even he was getting hit he was smiling all the time. When he let him go ,after they separated some meters he insulted aagain. Again he beated him,and at last he insulted again and run away. Short, he is a motherfu*king kid.
2.) Beat him. he's about 4 years younger so u know how thats ending. But he is ,lets say guarded,by some real thugs. I mean those who know the police,have gunns,ex convicts. One word and they come. They'll see im older and propablly it will not end good for me.
But maybe he will think twice before saying a word on the street next time
Just befor i wrote this,i was walking with my 2 new school friends. I saw him walking down the street ,i didnt know how to act,because i was ashamed if he called me something infront of my friends. So he looked and i made ,i would say stupid face to him. and he said what i didnt want him to say. It was so embarrasing ,so embarasing.
Now should i beat him ???

LastMatchLeft wrote:Now should i beat him ???

No, don't do that. A vigorous reaction works in many cases, but looks like this kid you're describing is seriously messed up. Most people have limits and they give up when they see there's even the slightest threat of reaction. But this kid doesn't seem to hesitate to attack you even being considerably younger. That fact alone looks like a huge warning sign to me. He doesn't look like someone able to accept defeat on any level or circumstance. If he can't win alone, he'll call the thugs. Unfortunately, reasoning with him doesn't sound like a viable option either.

Can you think of someone else you know personally who could help you to come up with possible solutions? Perhaps even someone you're not used to talking with. Friend, family, neighbour, cousellor, I don't know. It's really a tough situation, so you'll need to work with details of your life/routine that we don't know about here.

captain ad hoc wrote:

LastMatchLeft wrote:Now should i beat him ???

No, don't do that. A vigorous reaction works in many cases, but looks like this kid you're describing is seriously messed up. Most people have limits and they give up when they see there's even the slightest threat of reaction. But this kid doesn't seem to hesitate to attack you even being considerably younger. That fact alone looks like a huge warning sign to me. He doesn't look like someone able to accept defeat on any level or circumstance. If he can't win alone, he'll call the thugs. Unfortunately, reasoning with him doesn't sound like a viable option either.

Can you think of someone else you know personally who could help you to come up with possible solutions? Perhaps even someone you're not used to talking with. Friend, family, neighbour, cousellor, I don't know. It's really a tough situation, so you'll need to work with details of your life/routine that we don't know about here.

Right now I cant ask for help cuz he hasnt done something like physical attack or smthing. Hes just disrespecting me. I got so depressed and sad now ,not because of him,but because i feel worthless that i cant handle a 15 years old.
And imagine i was having a great time before i met him 2day. Its almost funny how i get depressed after having a good time. Its like its meant for me to be sad.

LastMatchLeft wrote:Right now I cant ask for help cuz he hasnt done something like physical attack or smthing. Hes just disrespecting me.

Doesn't mean it's supposed to be taken lightly. It's causing you distress, and that's what matters. In a workplace environment, for example, this kind of systematically aggressive behaviour could be enough justification for getting someone fired.

I know what you mean, though. In high school I wanted my aggressors to be punished, and I could never find a way for that to happen. But today I'm content with the fact that they all screwed with their own lives in the years that followed. No need for any other punishment.

I got so depressed and sad now ,not because of him,but because i feel worthless that i cant handle a 15 years old.

Remember it's not just a 15-year-old you're having trouble with. It's his whole toxic social circle. Even if it causes you considerable distress to contain yourself, it's more than just an automatic thing, it's a rational decision. You're avoiding real danger.

And imagine i was having a great time before i met him 2day. Its almost funny how i get depressed after having a good time. Its like its meant for me to be sad.

Maybe you're suffering from some kind of biochemical mood fluctuation too? Bipolar, thyroiditis, I don't know. This "I always feel bad right after feeling good" scenario sounds very familiar. In my case, it seems my thyroid was the major cause.

Oh, it just occurred to me that I didn't actually tell you this: if you have even the slightest suspicion that you could be suffering from biochemical fluctuations, go see a doctor. Bipolar disorder can be greatly reduced with treatment, and thyroid disease diagnosis and treatment are usually pretty straightforward.

Don't give up. Keep posting.

fyi, "thugs" don't usually slavishly obey a 15 year old kid.

i would beat this kid half to death, personally.

Little Boy Lost wrote:fyi, "thugs" don't usually slavishly obey a 15 year old kid.

i would beat this kid half to death, personally.

Lol but then again you're a sociopath, aren't you?

Don't get me wrong, I would love to beat this kid myself. But I don't think it's a good idea.

Little Boy Lost wrote:fyi, "thugs" don't usually slavishly obey a 15 year old kid.

i would beat this kid half to death, personally.

in my head they couldn't find his body.

LastMatchLeft wrote:

Little Boy Lost wrote:fyi, "thugs" don't usually slavishly obey a 15 year old kid.

i would beat this kid half to death, personally.

in my head they couldn't find his body.

Well when it was me, in my head there was no body left to be found...

But don't worry, you'll get over it eventually. Just remember: stay away from danger, work on the details, and don't refuse help. One day you'll get the opportunity to (metaphorically) beat all the bullies, and it'll feel as good as if you had actually done it.

to the OP, how old are you hunny, you sound quite young. All this drama sounds really dangerous to me. In my opinion you need to distance yourself from these people. Even the language you use and what you say in your post make me think that you are at risk of harm if you stay around these people. My advice, take it or leave it but I've been round the block a couple of times (at least) and you need a fresh start. Get away, don't let other people reduce you to their way of life. I've lived with drug abuse, violence, neglect, abandonment, alcoholism, death by overdose of a close relative, poverty and the list goes on.
Now i have a beautiful home, loving husband, 3 gorgeous children who cherish me and i feel lucky that my ending was a happy one. Each day I live is a gift. Choose your path and don't let anyone get in your way. It will be hard but it's 'do-able' I'm living proof. I wish you the best.

kisses, hugs and whatever else you need to get through this.
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