How NOT to be Bullied in Life

Look them straight in the eye and snarl when you speak to them.

Don't talk to them.
Don't react to the bully's rude remarks
Do not draw attention to yourself.

jep, pretty much what justonemoreperson wrote. Don´t make it enjoyable for them.
Sometimes they bully you because they feel inferior and sometimes because they think its fun. Or because you´re funny. Im narcissistic but I dont bully people, although I have a bad habit of using suppression techniques.
Anyway, just dont react to their behaviour or just do the opposite of what you normally would do. They hate that. I hate that. If I tell you that your new haircut looks like the road kill I saw on the way to work then you shouldnt ignore me or laugh like you think its funny , you should look down at the ground and try to hide your emotions!
Nooo now Im just making fun of the situation.

But remember, Its never your fault. You haven´t done anything.

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My trick in school to avoid bullying was to just be disproportionately violent. Just go all out at the first sign of a bully and nobody will ever want to mess with you. I would Imagine I was a wild ape and just throw them down on the ground, grab their hair, and then smash their heads into the floor until someone pulled me away. I would bite, scratch, fight dirty, use rocks. Whatever it took.

The bad thing about being bullied, though, is that it sets them up for more bullying later. Usually the kid will get bullied and then become more meek and set himself up for more bullying down the road. It sucks really. I never liked seeing kids bullied at school for just being quiet or whatever, and tried to help if I thought they were being unfairly treated.

*note: I am not suggesting that kids violently assault their tormentors. I am just stating how I responded to any sort of aggressive behavior. It could easily backfire and get you jumped by a bunch of kids.

I was bullied endlessly in middle school after being separated from everybody I knew and placed into classes with kids from the other side of town. There was nothing like having an entire classroom full of students making jokes about you while you are ganged up on and helpless to defend yourself. I was also followed by a 6'2 bully home everyday and had to navigate my way around him by switching buses or walking home. A few times I chose the wrong bus or was found walking home and beaten badly by him and his 15 year old buddies while I was 12 years old. The following year in the 8th grade my friend who was physically weaker than me but had more courage accepted the offer of the fight from the bully. He lucked out and got the right punch in at the right time and defeated the bully. I always wished I'd had the courage to do that. By the 9th grade I joined the football team as a way to get tougher and be accepted by the bullies. The great thing about football was that in a one on one tackling drill you could knock the bully silly if you wanted and there was nothing they could do about it. I remember sacking the qb who happened to be a big bully in practice and causing a fumble and the qb throwing the ball at my head afterword as I chuckled while the coaches praised me. Some of the other bullies from 7th grade were on that team and by that time I had no fear of them whatsoever. I'd knock them silly too and they learned to respect me. The other thing that helped in football was during gametime if I made a great tackle on the field the bullies would be cheering me on. The football experience did much to neutralize the bullies. Being good is not a given but going out there and knocking people silly is pretty easy if your not afraid. Once they see you are as rough as they are they accept you. My early weeks I was called a few names and laughed at a bit but after a season of knocking both bullies and the players on the other team silly I never got bullied much again. Like the bully in one of the past post said, taking a hit and getting hit is really not that bad. Football was a free pass to fight back and gain confidence against the bullies. They made themselves out to be so tough but proved to be nothing special on the football field. If the choice is a lifetime of regrets or getting banged up a bit it's best to chose getting banged up.

1. Talk confidently
2. Have a firm handshake
3. Put bass in your voice
4. Walk straight with your head held up high
5. Put some pep in your step (it's ok to have a little attitude in your walk)
6. Always look someone directly in the eye when speaking to them
7. Try not to be too quiet
8. Unless they greet you first, do not greet them.
9. Avoid smiling at the person, as kindness may be taken for weakness
10. Never apologize/say "I'm sorry"

I will never change my personality for anyone. I would rather die. God is my avenger. Crush me bullys. God will rise me up. Mabe if Christ had Bass in his voice they wouldent have crucified him? Its no wonder im a victim, I am the complete opposite of this advise. What are we animals? Wolfs & Rabbits?
Bullys, your stupid. Maybe someone unlike me will have had enough, & calmly shoot you in the face?
My Bullys should have killed me. Because dispite them i grew up, I have a beautiful famiely that loves me, & i am a soft spoken giant, that smiles at strangers. Bully's, I forgive you.

The tips at the beginning of this topic might seem useful sometimes, yet some of them might ask for problems. By looking someone straight in the eye you can make them feel uncomfortable, but it can also make you feel uncomfortable. As soon as it does that, the bullies might see it...

also the tips given here are based on placing you status higher than theirs, which might be something they don't like.

1. Talk confidently
2. Have a firm handshake
4. Walk straight with your head held up high

these three you do need to make them stop bullying you, but why whouldn't you greet them? I'd just greet them with a smile each morning to make them know that I'm not going to be afraid of them. If they start calling names, challanging or pushing I ignore them. If they start using violence I will just go to the police since it is forbidden (at least in my country) to hurt someone physically without and good reason.

Katie

philaman01 wrote:9. Avoid smiling at the person, as kindness may be taken for weakness

I disagree. Even though I've never been bullied or so if I did it gets resolved somehow but I think excessively smiling and being facetious is a strength.

They will think you are some crazy man with unpredictable urges.. smiling + excessive laughter will get them off your back in no time.

Smiling cannot be substituted for presumptuous kindness.. I can smile at the misery of others if I wanted to.. so you can smile at the worthlessness of the bully rather than having a poker face as if you've been violated.

justonemoreperson wrote:This is how to deal with a person who is abusing you, whether it's classed as bullying or not:
1/ A bully expects weakness from the victim. Expects crying, begging, reasoning etc - so if you try this it's not going to work. This is part of the fun. Act in an unexpected way. Sing loudly, dance, start talking about some random issue that has no bearing on the situation. Showing that you're not affected by the torment makes it less amusing.

Not a bad list of advice you put up ay Jomp.
I agree on reacting unconventionally.. As I was getting chased in highschool by someone who disliked me I was laughing and singing "you got a friend in me" and "why can't we be friends" and it seemed to placate them as they weren't expecting it.

If you're bullied by a group, find the individuals when they're alone. This type of bully is very much a coward and approaching them separately and getting in their face will have a dramatic effect.

It's all sh!ts and giggles along with the complexity of empowerment, catching the vulnerable bully alone, you can do whatever you like but it ends with them coming the next day tormenting you, with the WHOLE group.. that is what I dislike about these things even though they aren't unprecedented.. no one knows what a nice 1 on 1 fight is anymore.