I met this abusive guy...I need some advice please??

I met a guy at an event which involved out theatre group and his..as well as other ones in the country..it was a nice experience visiting other cities etc. and there was a group there from a 3rd world country who were really inspirational

we kept in touch and went on a date..he seemed charming and nice..then we went on a 2nd date and it was like he'd ripped the mask off..he admitted he smoked weed, stunk of it and was acting strangely..I went to his place even though we were meant to go to a restaurant..he asked if I wanted to watch a film and warily I agreed, we sat there and chatted for a while and then he asked for a kiss...we made out and it became clear to me that he was very awkward and has some serious issues..he was clumsy, rough and didn't know what he was doing but at the same time was quite forceful, he trapped me with his leg..shoved his tongue down my throat and I had his spit on my cheek, he was pulling my hair and squeezing my arms and legs quite hard..he lay there mouth moving talking to himself and eyes closed..I assumed the behaviour was because of the weed but still knew it was wrong..he said he wanted to touch my breasts and kept trying to get on top of me but would them stop himself, breathing heavily..eventually we left his place, he was happily walking along the road chatting away and I felt uncomfortable..got home and washed his smell of sweat off of me..I could still taste his eggy breath and had rashes all over my face from his stubble..he wanted to meet up again that week and suggested a time..the day came and it never happened, he didnt contact me and I didnt contact him..

eventually contact started up again, he would arrange to meet..it wouldnt happen, then he'd ask me to call him, he'd be all nice..then the next time he was snappy and rude, he seemed annoyed that I'd moved house and was sarcastic about my 'new start'..he pretended he didnt have my number and asked me to text it to him again so we could arrange to meet (another game - maybe because i'd deleted my facebook, perhaps he assumed I blocked him and took it personally - he's very overly sensitive) and I did text, he didnt reply and so yeah..i've been stupid, but I realise that. Im not upset, i've realised where I went wrong but im not going to beat myself up over this, im a 22 year old who has a father like this guy (but my father has NPD) and that's why I accepted the behaviour..I've learnt my lesson but thought I'd learnt my lesson already..didnt expect to be in a situation like this again

Im need your advice..should I continue at my theatre which means seeing him at future events again...or just leave and try to find another group which means never seeing him again. No one at my theatre knows about what has happened, they have met him and think he's nice, funny etc. I dont know what to do..?? please help? The events and the theatre have been nice experiences..but Im not sure if it's worth carrying on at the same time im worried about 'running away'..the situation with the guy has finished..but im worried that seeing him again will feel humiliating, especially because no one has a clue about this

Hey.
Your encounters with this guy sound like they are alarming you.
To be honest, guys trying to get into your pants shouldn't be too much of a surprise.
Your sexual encounter with him doesn't sound that out of the normal.

If you don't want to move so fast, you need to explain to any guy that you date that this is how you are.
As with sex, most people don't discuss the details with each other prior to having contact,
and most females expect men to make the first move. Most woman think that if a man doesn't try and screw them, then that's as strange as a man who jumps on you first chance.

As for him acting like a jerk. Well, most people have bad days, however, if you have a bad feeling about this guy. You don't have to see him.

As for contact. If you don't want to see him. Then I recommend that you find another theatre group to go to. If he follows you, then tell him that you don't like him and that if he continues to follow you, you will report him for harassment or stalking.

He probably wont follow you though. So you probably be ok.
If you want to meet someone who takes things slow, perhaps you can do some research for the right guy before meeting with them. As there are still a few guys out there that are sensitive enough to respect your wishes.

Well..I've told some people and they said his behaviour was out of the ordinary..the roughness and the switch in his attitude afterwards..people have said it could have been a planned attack and that's guys talking so I dont think it's normal at all. This wasn't just two people kissing it was a guy being forceful and he hurt me..is that normal??

I know most..ok all guys want to get into a girl's pants..that's old news lol

But I think some people have issues and when they behave in a cruel way and start trying to belittle the person..that aint normal..Im very confused right now about whether to continue there or not because it means eventually seeing him...you're the first person to say this encounter was normal