child school teachers' behavioral monitpring

hi
we live in majority white area. this area is not really known for highly educated people and in wider area the unemployment is high etc. etc.

i am asian origin and put my kid into reception class and its the same school he went for nursery so we have known the school for over a year now, no issues..!! now its his second week...i go drop and pick the kid generally (am my self a grumpy person but very logical and willing to be friends sort)....i have felt that the teachers (both white) have slightly firm and to -the -point sort attitude i can see they are bit open and friendly with whites...

generally school has high rating, state run, and have big posters listing no acceptance to racist behavior...

its only second week...but having known the area and people i am fearing risk of passively racist/ discriminatory behavior on my kid..!!

any advises...

its only second week...but having known the area and people i am fearing risk of passively racist/ discriminatory behavior on my kid..!!

any advises...

What do you imagine might happen?

InquisitivePursuer wrote:

its only second week...but having known the area and people i am fearing risk of passively racist/ discriminatory behavior on my kid..!!

any advises...

What do you imagine might happen?

suppression, passive bullying, de-motivation...!!!

xyz111 wrote:

InquisitivePursuer wrote:

its only second week...but having known the area and people i am fearing risk of passively racist/ discriminatory behavior on my kid..!!

any advises...

What do you imagine might happen?

suppression, passive bullying, de-motivation...!!!

Demotivation?
How so?

xyz111 wrote:am my self a grumpy person but very logical and willing to be friends sort)....i have felt that the teachers (both white) have slightly firm and to -the -point sort attitude i can see they are bit open and friendly with whites...

If they haven't done anything outwardly racist, have you considered that perhaps they are just responding to you in a way they deem appropriate in relation to your demeanour? You seem quite firm and to the point in your post, perhaps if you act similarly in real life with the teachers, they are under the impression that this is the style of interaction that you prefer and are actually trying to be nice by reciprocating it?

For example, I'm not a particularly warm, huggy type of person in real life and in general I don't appreciate it when people get all hug around the waist type of chummy on me. Some people pick up on my demeanour and know not to go down the overly friendly route; this may be what people are thinking when they come across your style of interacting, trying to respond in kind to the kind of interaction you are supplying them with.

I'm not sure if this is the case or not, I'm just throwing it out there as an idea for you to consider.

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Demotivation?
How so?[/quote]
demoralisation .. child losing intest in going to school, enjoying the school...

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salted lipstick wrote:

xyz111 wrote:am my self a grumpy person but very logical and willing to be friends sort)....i have felt that the teachers (both white) have slightly firm and to -the -point sort attitude i can see they are bit open and friendly with whites...

If they haven't done anything outwardly racist, have you considered that perhaps they are just responding to you in a way they deem appropriate in relation to your demeanour? You seem quite firm and to the point in your post, perhaps if you act similarly in real life with the teachers, they are under the impression that this is the style of interaction that you prefer and are actually trying to be nice by reciprocating it?

For example, I'm not a particularly warm, huggy type of person in real life and in general I don't appreciate it when people get all hug around the waist type of chummy on me. Some people pick up on my demeanour and know not to go down the overly friendly route; this may be what people are thinking when they come across your style of interacting, trying to respond in kind to the kind of interaction you are supplying them with.

I'm not sure if this is the case or not, I'm just throwing it out there as an idea for you to consider.

yes i have considered this i happen to be a little assertive person who would like to argue (in a healthy manner) but am willing to confront when it has to come to that....but i also like to respect people and would like to be formal in situation, specially in this particular situation when its my kid's school. there i start nice but when not met in an appropriate behavior then have this tendency to 'fight back' instead ignoring and 'give it a time'...this is something i need to learn...

having said that the area generally is single/ white dominated, literary and employment rate is generally low....people would like to intimidate you but when show some nerves them would like to immediately soften up and pretend to be victimised....

anyways...

demoralisation .. child losing intest in going to school, enjoying the school...

What do you imagine might happen to your child so that (s)he would stop enjoying and lose interest in going to school?

InquisitivePursuer wrote:

demoralisation .. child losing intest in going to school, enjoying the school...

What do you imagine might happen to your child so that (s)he would stop enjoying and lose interest in going to school?

discrimination by means of playing my kid low..
passive racism or even may be active -playing my kid down in front of other kids....
scaring my kid .... i know my early career, specially, white colleagues had this practice of making awkward moves (staring, standing behind my desk and suddenly remove themselves as soon I sensed any presence etc.) to demoralise me....

my kid is more talkative than me but he also have simple nature...i fear he will be scared to tell us about any ill behavior in school...

i do not like when all school management largely white therefore no multi -culture -ism to balance out things...

my kid is more talkative than me but he also have simple nature...i fear he will be scared to tell us about any ill behavior in school...

Would it not be a good idea then to regularly take him aside for a few minutes so as to encourage him to speak up to you whenever he might feel terribly affected by these kind of taunts?

My mother often used to sit with me after and even before school, talking about all kinds of stuff; oftentimes repeatedly emphasizing that she wanted me to dare to talk about whatever upsetted me.
Even if one day i'd turn out to feel homosexually oriented, she insisted that i'd tell her because she wanted to be able to understand what i was dealing with in my life.

After she established this regular routine of comforting me like that, and reassuring my faith in her willingness to understand any of the struggles i may have faced, for all the time to come afterwards, until the very present, i've always been feeling like i can bring up a whole lot which most other parents would have (un)wittingly disallowed their children from openly admitting due to the children having always adhered to a certain (unspoken) code of ethics, in which are contained the rules that determine what can and what cannot be discussed.

So let this hopefully serve as an inspiring anecdote for you.