"Just ignore it." Are you insane?

Sorry that does not work. Please do not ever tell a child who is being bullied to "just ignore it" because it DOES NOT WORK. Maybe once in a blue moon but I speak from experience when I say they really don't care. They don't necessarily need a reaction from you, especially the clever ones, they usually just need some kind of fuel from their friends to keep going and they usually get it. So you can sit there like a wet noodle all you like and bullies will continue to bully you for whatever reason. Unfortunately I don't know what you can do because everything has a potential risk so you have too evaluate your own situation and if ignoring it seems like the least dangerous way to go then by all means, ignore it, just don't expect it to end for that reason alone.

I would never tell someone to just ignore bullying either. In that case, the bully may try even harder to provoke a reaction. I wouldn't use the advice that bully's are simply people with problems either. If my kid was being bullied, I would go straight to the school to get it sorted because i know first-hand how badly bullying can affect a kid.

Thanks for the post my friend; good words.

Take care,
Kevin.

ignoring it please, i tries it and it doesnt work so i started fighting back it turn out to be fun and it lasted from my elementry all the way my first of middle school. People tried to bully me later but all they did was catch a beat down even with their friends not to mention i had friends to help which is what everyone should have but i didnt need them.

I try and I try and I try to ignore it. My school had a "zero-tolerance" on bullying, but the bully was so clever, they'd make themselves look like angels in front of the teachers and principal, so they didn't believe me. So I agree, ignoring it does nothing. Because that's what the principal told me to do, and it just made the bully get more friends to bully me and to bully worse than what they were originally.

Their is SOME merit to that classical advice. Bullies seek to get an emtonal reaction, and if they don't get it, they'll try harder but might eventualyl give up. Of course you do have to be ready to fight back. its mainly said by teachers who cannot be bothered to deal with, eithe rbecause they think of pupils as less than human or have become too apahtetic themselves. Such people should not be allowed to become teachers, but then school system is far from optimal. Or even good.

I agree never tell someone that. I was told that for 8 years while I was in primary and the bullies never stopped even if I never gave them a reaction. It might work for some cases but not all. Find out why the person is being targeted.

It doesn't even work for most cases, they just hope it does. It doesn't. All my friends and I have tried to ignore it and we have, and then they just try harder and don't give up. It does not work in most cases. I hate the advice. I wish no one ever created it. Verbal abuse is one of the worst abuses in my opinion, as it scars someone for life a lot of the time.

My sister is a bully towards me, and often times my relatives and parents tell me to ignore it or just think it's "normal" sibling fights.
I try hard to ignore it, but she doesn't stop just because she doesn't get a reaction out of me. I think they tell me to ignore it because
of the fact that she's 12 and my sister somehow makes it less serious, or
hurtful.
Telling someone to ignore any form of abuse from anyone is one of the worst things to do in my opinion...
If it's constantly in your life, you can't ignore it. Bottling up feelings doesn't help a situation. It's as if they'd rather just tell
someone to ignore it than get involved with the problem. It's like they just don't want to have to deal with the victim or the abuser.

I feel for you, I go through the same thing. "Oh their your sibling, it's their job" ... stupid thing to say. Stupid! Srsly. I hope you can figure something out.

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