Sisters boyfriend is a bully

I’ve always known that I was a nerd.. but I never really thought it was a problem until recently..

So, I’ve recently just met my sisters boyfriend.. and he’s an asshole.. He’s one of those loudmouth ripped idiots.. Me on the other hand, I’m timid, weak, and I’ll admit it.. nerdy.

So, my sister invited me to dinner with her boyfriend. and all went well until he decided to wrestle with me. With him being ripped he easily pinned me down, I guess with the wrestling he caught a glimpse of my underwear and started laughing, without warning he gave me a huge wedgie. Then all of a sudden, he left and then came back with a rope. He looped a rope through the leg holes of my underwear, and gave me a hanging wedgie from a exposed beam in his basement. His reason for the wedgie was that I still wore ’tighty whites’ or briefs.. and according to him, only nerds wear those..

My sister came down to see what was going on and just laughed at the sight of me hanging by my briefs. Her boyfriend said how he used to be a bully in high-school just a year before and missed doing things like this. Then my sister said that if he missed it so much, then why not bully me.. He loved the idea, and thats where we are today..

A few times a week, my sister drags me over to her boyfriends so he can play bully and hang me by my tighty whities.. Theres not much I can do about it, I’m too weak to fight back and I don’t dare tell anyone because I’m too embarrassed. So I’m kind of just stuck.
I’ve accepted my fate as a nerd, and accepted that this is something that I have to live with and can’t change. It will only go away on its own as time passes and he gets bored of it.

This is awful. I'm sorry for your bullying. Your sister is going to suffer some bad guilt one day, and if she doesn't she'll have other problems. Not good to allow this to happen to family members.

How about NOT going to his house?

Otter.

i'd consider the hanging you by your pants/undies to be at least minor assault.. do you want to report this.? much bullying is unfortunately not taken seriously by law enforcement but what happened to you is something that they need to check properly.

I hope your sister suffers guilt for this one day.. and yep, as Otter says - if she doesn't suffer guilt then she's definitely got some other issues on their way..

Definitely do avoid going over to your sisters house - is there any reason aside from ''society/family expects me to'', that you have to go over there.?
If you don't actually have to go there, then please do protect yourself and keep away from there.

This really isn't a huge deal for me..I really don't want to report it. I know that I'm a nerd and that these types of things just happen guys like us.

Actually, I think this might be good for me.. My sister knew that I had a minor bullying problem last year and said that if I don't take care of it, people will just continue to take advantage and bully me. Luckily that one instance went away on its own.
I know she is using her boyfriend to bully me to get me to fight back and learn to stand up for myself. So, I think of this as a good thing. I don't want this to continue, and I know I need to learn to fight back, so this bullying will make me learn how to stand up for myself.

You've just got to see the bright side to things! Hopefully soon, I'll learn to stand up for myself.

that's certainly an interesting viewpoint.. if your sister is doing this deliberately to make you stand up for yourself and you're okay with this - i wish you the best of luck.
If you have any serious issues or it goes far enough to actually hurt you then please do report it.

In my eyes I have two options I could either learn to stand up for myself or just give up and accept that I'm weak and wait until this goes away in a few years.

Now, If I learn to stand up for myself, that means I'll need to get stronger so I can fight him. I think gaining that kind of strength would take me about a year or so..

On the other hand, I could just give up.. I really don't want to do that, but I'm afraid that getting hung 4 times a week for two hours at a time might make me give up.. Hopefully, it won't.

Either way, I'll have to endure getting hung 4 times a week for about a year. I think I have the mental strength to get through it, but only time will tell.
I just don't know why he chose to bully me in this way, I've been beat up before, but never bullied by means of a wedgie. I don't know why he does that instead of just beating me to a pulp. But it's irritating having to buy tighty whities every week because all of mine are too stretched out

I can't believe what im reading, but i guess there is no reason to lie.
Fighting against him doesn't mean you have to win, you just need to show aggression and show you will fight back, you don't have to be very strong to hurt someone and he will think twice next time.
You MUST understand physical pain is nothing compared to psychological pain and sequels, you will regret later on not having fought, you must allways fight back, don't let others bully you and seek help if needed.

Oh hell no.

I wouldn't go back there, mijo.

No way.

I mean I was the skinny geeky guy too. And even though I'm now a fat old man I'm still a bit of a physical coward but you're not hanging this old fella up by his britches. Not if you don't want to come out of the house and find four slashed tires. I ain't joking. Don't hang me up.

No at your age, I simply would have avoided him. And still would, to avoid well, not only getting hurt, but I'd be tempted to start WWIII.

And... I can't believe you let her drag you there. Oh hell no. If you think this is for your own good then fight back mijo, get it over with. Otherwise I wouldn't be around him. Period.

What the..?

Your sister is emotionally abusive and encouraging her boyfriend to physically abuse you. There are other ways to learn to stand up for yourself then to accept, and then go along with, that same abuse.

Don't see them! I can't even express how concerned and angry reading this this made me. Your sister sounds like a terrible person tbh. Please look after yourself. If you feel like your sister is orchestrating this for your own good and you're taking to it as some kind of ###$ test it seems like you're already suffering from severe psychological damage...

I’m scared that if I don’t go then he will make it worse for me. So, I’m just following his rules and hoping that it won’t be that bad. I don’t think this is causing any damage to me, just annoying really.