Why do people treat me so terrible?

I am a college student studying Nursing and I have many goals, but it is becoming hard to keep studying and staying in college. Everyone in college calls me ugly and I was even labeled the ugliest girl at the school. People never seem to stop talking about me. They make me out to be the ugliest thing they have ever seen. People don't even talk to me; they just avoid me and laugh at me to their friends. I sometimes get so mad and irritable that I have to punch something or have a feeling of murdering someone. I am just sick of people treating me like I am not human and that I have no feelings. Many people when I ask questions they avoid eye contact. I am beginning to hate people and want to murder them all. No one wants to be my friend and worst of all every time my relatives ask how I feel at school they giggle, I can tell in the tone of their voice!!! Previously in high school I told them I had experienced teasing. I just want to kill all the people that treat me wrong. I am starting to not care about the consequences.

Sorry to hear about your problem. Your use of "everyone" and "all" sounds like you may be over generalizing. I have known people with deformities and didn't respond that way and saw others not respond that way. I know when I was severely depressed I globalized many issues like thinking "I can't do anything right", have you considered cognitive therapy?

hiya..

that was disgusting for those kids at school to label you as the ugliest girl there.. i'm so so sorry that this ever happened

I am just sick of people treating me like I am not human and that I have no feelings

^^ you are very welcome and very safe here.. your feelings matter xx

I was wondering.. have you got any idea why the people at college don't talk to you..? I was just trying to work out what could have caused their behaviour.. whether maybe you'd gone to the same school together and they brought this behaviour with them when they transitioned from school to college (they clearly didn't manage to find a decent conscience in the process).


I'm also a bit concerned that you use the terms ''everyone'' and ''all'' - i think that you sound really really isolated and stressed right now and could very much use a helping hand. I don't like the idea of you feeling so alone and starting to believe that everyone is like those bullies.
There are some really truly horrible people in the world but there are also some lovely and decent ones as well.. i'd like to think that you won't let the horrible ones win in pushing you down. Start climbing up instead and definitely enlist the help of a therapist for a while.. xx

A wise man once said:
[quote]it's not just about the pleasures of conformity, and the importance of trends/quote]
What you fail to see here is that, appearance is alterable to a degree while society on the other hand is stagnant in it's values and beliefs. No one want's to associate or be friends with someone very ugly or low on the societal ladder.
You have to conform, stop fighting it and look inward, unless you believe you are capable of running some grand campaign clearing your name of ugliness associated with it and change the school I suggest you start with yourself. Look at why they think you are ugly and fix yourself.

I am sorry those people in college are so cruel. They are not worth knowing.
You are above that name calling and labeling. I know it hurts and makes you angry but they are not worth wearing orange and going to prison for by killing them, are they? Try to ignore those cruel people and focus on the nicer people. The cruel ones are not worth your time.

Hi,

First of all I want to say how sorry I am you are going through this as a nursing student, I am sure you have many wonderful qualities and much to give to the world.

It really sounds to me that you do not deserve this kind of treatment, but people are cruel, and honestly I have never understood it - but some people feel better about themselves by making other people feel bad about themselves I honestly don't why but it is a fact.

I think you should concentrate on all your good qualities, you are caring, you are worthwhile and try and cultivate some interests outside of college maybe visiting some old folks in retirement homes.. they love to see young people, and while it might be a bit boring, you will get some wonderful satisfaction of knowing you have brightened someones day when they go for weeks without seeing anybody and older people have some great live experience to share.

Or join a book club or anything that appeals to you.

You need to concentrate on nurturing yourself right now and don't give those cruel thoughtless people another thought, they are losers in the long run, because they will never know the beautiful, kind, sensative person you are.

Take care of yourself and remember you do matter to the Universe.

Ax

if you go to college in a small town where some people depending on the state you live in has nothing better to do and or are narrow minded of other peoples views and appearances. I have seen this behaviour before. This is my motto . Why do you wanna talk to someone who doesnt wanna talk to you You seem like a nice well rounded person. Ignore them, unless you like wearing the color orange for the rest of your life, i would not resort to killing them.

They come to you and call you ugly, you do not go to them and ask to call you ugly, that gives you the power imho. This is my personal perspective.i wouldn't wanna talk to people that does not wanna talk to me. it is their loss not yours. i am truly sorry for what you are going through. stay strong and focus on the road ahead.There is no answer to why they treat you this way . Even if you were to ask them or confront them I AM PRETTY SURE THEY WOULD NOT TELL YOU THE TRUTH. people like that are cowards.

There are some people who get a thrill out of being abusive to others, and if they see an easy way to do so, they will take it. Others simply go along with it, siding with the abuser instead of the victim.

They abuse you, because they see you as an easy target. All I can say is to build your own self esteem away from them, so that their abuse won't harm you as much. I know that this is easier said than done.

Hi Danae102
I understand how you feel. Actually, I wasn't bullied, I was the bully most of the time when I was in school, BUT, I understand your rage, not necessary your experience.

Why do I say that I understand you? Because when someone is angry, I instantly feel it, I connect with it, I'm drawn to it. Do you know who I don't pick on? people that fight back. Not because they scare me, it's because as a bully, I like to pick on the weak (yes condemn me to hell LOL). If someone has the balls to fight back, they prove to me that they're not a puss, I only pick on puss. Next time someone says something to you, say something back. flip them off. *mod edit*
You're a nurse, you're smart, I trust you will find a way around it. There's no point trying to be "the better person". What logic is that LOL? *mod edit*