Bullying and Sexuality

If you are bullied for a long period of time during or after puberty this can result in changes to your sexuality, you can become sadistic or masochistic and in my case I developed homosexual tendencies although I was completely heterosexual prior to the bullying. Bullying really impacts every part of your life and alters your entire mind and body.

I don't believe sexuality is defined by things in your past, I mean it can impact it, definately.
I spent my life being who I am. I am married yet I still love women (I am female). My Husband supports me and my bisexuality.
I spent my life bullied for being who I was. When my sexuality came out, boy did the school kids have a field day with it. But I never changed who I was to satisfy their sadistic rituals.

I was born liking women, I will die liking women

Sometimes we think words cannot hurt anyone but that is totally false. Age doesn’t matter when it comes to bullying neither does gender. If you are different, embrace it. That’s what makes you stand out. Bullies can never stop you from being you. So what if you are gay or you are Asian or you like theater? That does not give anyone the right to bring you down. Of course, you should not consider suicide or self-harm because in the end it is you who is losing. Bullies would be happier once they found out you wanted to hurt yourself. Don’t do that, you are giving them a favor.

Development of male homosexuality in response to chronic bullying is plausible. If the intimidating dominant-aggressive behavior of bullies made you feel fear and girly submissiveness, and in turn have rock-bottom testosterone and heightened estradiol, over a long period of time during puberty, then those altered hormone levels could have affected the development of your brain's sexual recognition centers.

researcher2 wrote:Development of male homosexuality in response to chronic bullying is plausible. If the intimidating dominant-aggressive behavior of bullies made you feel fear and girly submissiveness, and in turn have rock-bottom testosterone and heightened estradiol, over a long period of time during puberty, then those altered hormone levels could have affected the development of your brain's sexual recognition centers.

Yes, that's exactly how I felt, in my case the bullying went on for about 3 years (from 14-17) when these three dominant boys at school basically turned me into their servant/maid. Every school day I had to go get them extra forks, spoons, and napkins in the cafeteria so that they wouldn't have to get up from their lunch table. I also had to call them "Sir" and say "Yes Sir" when one of them would tell me to do something. These things happened to me before the infamous Columbine school shooting event in 1999 that put the spotlight on school administrators taking more steps to prevent and stop bullying. Back then bullies were more aggressive and they were less afraid you would retaliate against their power.

Can I ask a question?

In a rather large number of circles, why is it when LGBT's fight back when they get sick and tired of being called unnatural, immoral, disgusting, and are denied the ability to live their lives the way they want and demand to be treated the same way everyone else wants to be treated in return, they are the ones who get called intolerant bullies? Last time I checked, they weren't going around accusing everyone of being godless heathens, forcing everyone to live by their rules, and crying "religious persecution" whenever they get criticized because everyone is an individual. Some guys act more like girls and or fall in love with guys, some girls act more like guys and or fall in love with girls, some people raise their kids in a way that's totally different from usual, and some people don't people in God, gender, social or moral norms, or anything.

I found something on Facebook a long time ago, if I remember correctly, about someone complaining that she was allegedly being harassed at a bar by some gay people and now almost all over places like Yahoo, YouTube, and DeviantArt, and other news outlets, a large number of people call out LGBT's for what they claim as being jerks, bullies, a-holes, hypocrites, or whatever even though they either have nothing to prove or it was all a misinterpretation. After all, you can find almost anything on the internet and you never know whether or not if it's really true or just a stunt.

Please tell me this is all just projection because I joked to my mother that I refused to let my curiosity towards myself become a cross to bear over my head for a group that I differed from, but instead to lift and bash other people's heads in with. It was just an expression that I did not really meant, but she told me that what I said was just as evil what I was being persecuted for.

researcher2 wrote:Development of male homosexuality in response to chronic bullying is plausible. If the intimidating dominant-aggressive behavior of bullies made you feel fear and girly submissiveness, and in turn have rock-bottom testosterone and heightened estradiol, over a long period of time during puberty, then those altered hormone levels could have affected the development of your brain's sexual recognition centers.

If you return to the forum, could you please cite any corroborating research to your hypothesis? Thanks.

I wanted to add some details to this thread which I think ties into the connection I feel between bullying and sexuality. Whenever I have dreams at night in which I find myself in a state of anxiety, fear, or helplessness, I always start having orgasms in real life. In a recent dream I was back in college and I discovered that I was enrolled in 4 classes and I was failing 3 out of 4, the knowledge that it was too late to pass these classes caused me to have orgasms in real life. So when I look back upon the bullying I suffered from other boys as a teenager I can't help but feel that it was this feeling that I was helpless and had no power in the situation which caused me to feel a sexual response and ultimately to develop homosexual tendencies. I'm not physically attracted to men but when they have power over me it turns me on. I didn't ask to be this way and I certainly don't think I was born gay.

This thread seems to be quite old, but I really have to speak my opinion about this. I do not believe for a second that bullying can cause someone to be gay. Sexuality is such a natural thing and it can't be changed even if you went through hell. You might feel discomfort towards the opposite or same sex depending on what you have been through, but you can't help who you might feel attracted to or who you fall in love with.

Angelspit wrote:This thread seems to be quite old, but I really have to speak my opinion about this. I do not believe for a second that bullying can cause someone to be gay. Sexuality is such a natural thing and it can't be changed even if you went through hell. You might feel discomfort towards the opposite or same sex depending on what you have been through, but you can't help who you might feel attracted to or who you fall in love with.

I don't see how any of that true, there's no evidence that homosexuality is always genetic. And anyway there are so many people who develop pedophilia as their core sexuality as the result of being molested as a child and I certainly don't think you would claim that all of them were born as genetic pedophiles, I don't see how the development of homosexuality as a result of childhood trauma couldn't follow the same pattern.