Need Advice

I have a little sister, who has been through so much in her life...she struggles in school because she is disabled. She had a fluid build up on her ears when she was a baby, and it has since affected her hearing, and her speech, but she is so beautiful, and kind hearted...I received a call from my mother today (my mother is a very calm and rational person) she was in tears and irate...my sister informed her today that she didn't want to go to school anymore...when asked why my sister said there is a kid at school who has been bullying her, and even hit her, this has been going on for several weeks now...this kid is 15, my sister is 11 (middle schools and grade schools are combined here) and he won't leave her alone . She dreads going to school every day, and she cries every morning because she doesn't want to go...My mother is looking into other options for her education, and I am going up this weekend to talk to the kid, the principal, and my sister to hopefully put an end to this. I'm not a violent person by any means, but I'm to the point with this that I'd much rather do what the parents are refusing to do give this kid the whooping he deserves. Any thoughts on what I might say to the kid, or what I can do to help my sister?

I think you are doing the right thing by considering addressing the school with this matter.

I am disabled, so know what it's like to be bullied.

If the school Head denies there is an issue, then you should consider your options.

Addressing the school doesn't do $#%^, if anything it will do more harm by bringing attention to the issue, labelling you as a snitch. Although it really shouldn't do, the only real method of stopping bullies is physical violence. Go up to the bully in public and punch him in the face, just beat the hell out of him and humiliate him.

If an adult punches a kid, they are in the wrong no matter WHAT the provocation. I don't completely disagree with your advice, Mike, in general. But it's a terrible idea here.

I think talking to the school is good, noryiku, like TROJAN says. I'd also suggest you dig around Google and find out if there have been any other bullying cases publicised in the local area. If so, that gives you more leverage, since they should have addressed it then and put a policy in place. Googling the bully's name and family name might bring up more useful information. It's totally unacceptable to bully on any grounds [and especially not with this age difference!] But perhaps if there's a parent jailed or dead, that might explain why this is happening. And perhaps suggest options for intervention [social services.]

Looking into the legal side of it might be good. The school presumably has a duty of care. If they're threatened with being sued for breaching that, they might get more conscientious about looking after their kids. I'd basically go nuclear with as many approaches as you can find. Other options for your sister's education might work out better for her. But they shouldn't come out of having to "run away". Your sister hasn't done anything wrong here. That's the angle I'd care most about. The bullying isn't her fault and backing down / leaving the school might feel like taking the blame. I am not suggesting that she "suck it up" and try to push through this. But if she can be supported to stay, that's probably better for her long-term.

Does she have many friends at the school? Do they know what's happening? If she's been hiding it from them too, perhaps you could encourage her to open up to one or two of them? That would give her some peer support emotionally and also is a practical way to help avoid further incidents at school. Picking on one person is one thing. Picking on them with all their mates around and supporting them is very different and most bullies would think twice.

If an adult punches a kid, they are in the wrong no matter WHAT the provocation. I don't completely disagree with your advice, Mike, in general. But it's a terrible idea here.

Oh right, I agree. Sorry, I assumed the OP was only a year or two older then his sister, didn't realize he was an adult.

I don't know the OP's age, but since they are referring to the bully as "a kid of 15" they must be older than that at least.