by Miz » Tue Aug 16, 2005 5:30 am
I've been Bulimic now for 17 years, which equates to half my life, which I know sounds crazy, but that's the reality. In those 17years, my weight has fluctuated from 58kgs down to 42kgs at my lowest. My weight gain usually is accompanied by a period of co-habitation with boyfriends; it's nearly impossible to hide the eating patterns of a seasoned Bulimic.
So I chose to live alone these days.
The throwing up has diminished over the years -- I no longer puke up after every meal, but I do relapse from time to time. I am also very particular about what foods I eat. For instance I still have psycological difficulties eating potatos, pasta, and rice, and I refuse to eat carbohydrates at night unless I have done at least 2hrs of heavy excersise. I still need to take laxatives every day, and I weigh myself every morning -- this has become part of my daily ritual.
I'm not sure if the Bulimic in me will ever recover, for I know that I am to this day still exhibiting "Bulimic" behaviours to compensate for the puking that started 17years ago. Although I no longer have the calluses on my hands, or the "blushed look" from the burst blood vessles on my face, I am still unable to go on a date and eat most of what is on the menu without the feeling of guilt, shame, or the need to excuse myself to the bathroom after the entree.
So is there hope for someone like me? I think so. Or at least I have noticed the difference; today I am no longer like the 17year old Miz who was desparately trying to control her weight to please someone else. She can keep her meals down (although she still mentally calculates calories), she can openly admit to close friends that she has an eating disorder, and therefore will not be able to eat certain foods, and she can openly share her story with strangers without shedding a tear of self-pity because she feels that her life is so miserable.
I'm doing OK. I've been Bulimic for half my life, and even if I live with it for another 17, well, I think I have the tools to cope better than before.