Thinking about bulimia

Hi,

I am about 5'4 and i weigh about 108 lbs. I am 13 years old. I am really considering bulimia, actually laxatives. I want so badly to be a size 00, i am a 2/3 or so... Before i go through with this i need some advice... thanks.

Hello and welcome to these forums!

You are right in thinking you need some help. Wanting to go to a 00 size when you are already a 2/3 is a classic sign of bulimia/anorexia. I would advise you to get professional counseling.

Wishing you well,
Sweetngentle

sorry if i was so vague in my question but am i really wrong? I weigh 108 or so now, i cryed for hours when i got over 100 i was so worried that i would be fat in no time. i feel so alone and fat. i do situps and crunches every day. i just want to be skinny and pretty. i hate myself so much. what i really want to know is iam i totally wrong? am i normal in thinking that being fat is bad? i dont think i am wrong. i havent told any one how i feel except this board. what should i do to make myself feel better. can anyone reffer me to a good therapist? thank you.

You skipped right over sweet 'n gentle answer.....you ignored her advice! Don't you see that?! Every one has their own idea of what is right or wrong about body image..what is ok or not ok when it comes to "fat" or "skinny". That you feel you are not comfortable at a certain size and you want to go from the size you are to a size 00....well it does bother me that at your age you are so obsessed on being a certain size. And I'm going to guess that has a lot to do not so much w/ what you feel truly is right for your body but w/ what society tells you by magazines and movie actresses is a "right" number to be. Now it's a big deal to be a size "0" and so you feel pressured to be a size "0". It's a big deal in society for women and young girls if you can wear a size "0".

I guess if you can get there to your desired size in a healthy way....it's up to you what size you feel is right. It's not up to anyone on a board what "size" or what number you read on a scale you feel you should be. First of all...you are going about your weight all wrong...but at 13...my trying to tell you that is simply not going to sink in! That's a lesson you'll learn the hard way I'm afraid. You're already on a fast track to learn your lesson the hard way....you're looking to get to your magic number on the scale and clothes rack w/in "bulimia" or anorexia. I didn't see you phrase your post as "I desire to be a size "0"...should I start eating salads and fresh fruit more and going to the gym more"....you know....change to an even more healthy structured eating habit or some sort of talored diet ...what have you and talk of some sort of work out...nope....you immediatly thought of extreme measures..."bulimia". WHY???? I don't get that. What is your motivation behind that?? Do you realize the health risks involved w/ bulmia or anorexia?....taking diaretics??? I've been there. You realize you don't just lose desired lbs. but that w/ enough abuse ....you head down a road of where you can't turn back and you can die. You do damamage to your body that you can't take back...if you don't die worse case scenario.

I just don't understand what results you are seeking!

well, i have tried exercising and eating right but it doesn't work! my aunt was anorexic and she got amazing results! she was so skinny, and i admired it so much, i knew she wasnt healthy though. i guess the results i am looking for is for people to walk up to me and say "wow, you are so skinny!" i just want to be recongnized for my skinny-ness (if that is a word)

"my aunt was anorexic and she got amazing results".

You can't even begin to imagine the ignorance in that statement. Sure....in the begining....she was thin....and to you....outward appearance.....your initial instinct when you look at her....hey...she's thin. But obviously you know nothing about what it truly means being anorexic or you wouldn't be considering doing this to yourself. Is there more going on for you that you need some attention? Because I cannot imagine that if someone truly knew what dealing w/ anorexic or dealing w/ bulimic can do to your body ..what it does to you not only physicaly but emotionaly ...it's not just a quick way to take off unwanted lbs.....but if you knew all that a person goes through....and worse case scenario....that people really can die from this......you would not be treating this so lightly and like hey...what about this "diet fad"...can this work for me??? It's not supposed to be the latest new diet craze to try out. It's a sad sad eating disorder people fall into and it really takes it's toll on your physically and emotionally. Read into either one in detail. Then come back to me and tell me that your aunt had amazing results and tell me you are still considering this as your new diet of choice. We can talk more after that. I'm sorry to sound so crass, but you seem to be taking this so lightly and like it's some latest diet trend....like it's not a big deal at all. I've dealt w/ bulimia. I know the devasting effects it can take on a person's body. It's not to be taken lightly.

ok im a suffering bulimic/ anorexic... i never chose to be like this because of the way I though that people saw me, its something else inside that takes over whenever I am around food, I guess I also have schizophrenia too, but thats not the point....

I was just reading about this chick thats 31 that wants to be known to be skinny, then another girl telling her of for not knowing the true meaning. At first I agreed cause I thought that she was so nieve to say $#%^ like i want to be known as skinny, but I think this disorder has its own problems that are serious, but are different in everyone. I mean, who wants to look like a skeleton? I cant stop myself from this disorder even though I know im killing myself in the prosses, I look distorted, bony, veiny, like im from etheopia. I mean thats what I couldnt understnd about this girl, why would she want to look like that. The only way you can truely be happy with youself and your body image is to be healthy, if you are doing everything you can to loose weight you wont be happy because your never satisfied and you just make yourself sick. Ah I could go on forever but I wont no one will understand my babbling.

i just think that these eating disorders have so many different meanings to each person they affect. Some are artificial and however the media has made it out to be, and some are really traumatizingly psychological (like who gives a fk neway). Each to there own I spose. Ok ill be quiet now.

i meant to say the 13 year old, yeah not 31

no, I don't think you understand what I mean....I don't think I did a good job w/ my above post....may I try again?

I do feel there are people out there that are perfectly healthy and don't have issues w/ anorexia and bulimia to start out w/. Does that make sense? And I would hate to see them out there asking about bulimia or anorexia for all the wrong reasons...there are people that do it for nothing more then to get attention...or because they think it will get them quick results and they don't have a clue about what it can truly do to them pyhsically and mentally.
But hell yes you are right....people dealing w/ anorexia and bulimia...they all fall into this for many different reasons. And yes...you are right....they are different things to different people. So I'm sorry if what I said hurt you. I was just so angry to see someone on here posting and taking this subject so lightly. Myself having suffered through this....it just burned me to see someone come on here and say things like "my aunt was anorexic and got amazing results". I just have a hard time accepting that someone would seek out trying anorexia or bulimia as the very first option. But yes, I do realize ..of course having been here myself...I realize people will do desperate things. However it's not like when I became so desperate w/ unhappy w/ my self image ...it's not like the first thing I did to loose weight was starve/binge-purge either. ....but again...as you correctly point out...this is many things to many people.
One thing I want to clarify myself on. I didn't mean to make it sound like when I said "Because I cannot imagine that if someone truly knew what dealing w/ anorexic or dealing w/ bulimic can do to your body" that there is only one way about this whole thing. I just meant by saying "truly" that well...ok...I admit I handled my words poory...but really all I meant was that it's not like this is some great diet that people should try out...she was acting that like because her aunt was anorexic and I would assume lost weight...that well gee....then everything must have worked out well w/ her and I'm sorry....but it's just not the case for most people. W/ most people...the "real" story for people dealing w/ anorexia and bulimia....whatever led them down that path....it can have really devasting effects not only physically but emotionally. So that's what I mean by saying truely dealing w/ it.

Again...I do apologize.

yeah i completely agree with you i was so shocked at how lossely she was going about it like it was a normal part of life for a girl... i mean i didnt like the way she said that about her aunt, 'amazing results' that just shows that some people just dont see the dangers and are blinded by the image, which is another reason why people start..
yeah but i agree with what you where trying to say. and for me i didnt just decide to become bulimic oor anorexic, it was a gradual thing... over time the strict diet became nothing and then the nothing became something when people worried and because of the severe depravation and staravation it became binging and purging.... i dont know how many people out there actually wake up one day and say ' im think i might beome anorexic/ bulimic', without it being gradual .. but then again everyone is constantly dieting around me so anything could be considered gradual..

anyway sorry im going on again back to the point angel i agree with you about this 13 yer old... i forgot her name.