Bulimic and Trying to Conceive

I have been bulimic for ten years.

I became pregnant this past August and lost the baby a few weeks ago. During my pregnancy I was in recovery and did not binge or purge at all.

I am now thinking about trying to conceive again and am feeling my bulimic thoughts rushing back to me. They are telling me that my baby will be ashamed of me because I am overweight (218lbs) and that being pregnant will make me fatter and ugly and my husband won't love me anymore.

Have any of you ladies ever had a pregnancy/prospective pregnancy trigger you? How did you deal?

I'm sorry to hear about your loss Miscarriages are hard.

I actually found pregnancy to be really good for my recovery. There was a lot of nausea & vomiting at first and I had to go on diclectin to treat it, but that didn't trigger me. Having a life growing inside of me was a good way to feel connected to my body and give myself permission to be adequately nourished. I had to take care of myself in other ways too, and knowing that I was taking care of more than just myself was a good thing.

During the first trimester I had access to a maternal mental health team. They were really good at listening and figuring out solutions to my problems before they triggered a relapse. Do you have access to something like that? Your doctor might know.

Your baby won't be ashamed of your weight. He/she will see your eyes, mouth, smile, and think about all the love and warmth they carry. Your voice will soothe them to sleep, your touch will quell their fear, and your embrace will make them secure. Babies don't shame people, and they don't feel shame. Your husband isn't making this decision to have a child lightly, either, and it's something he'd want to do with someone he loves. He knows there are body changes that happen. If he knows about your disorder, he knows how hard it's going to be for you too. Can you talk to him as this is happening so he can help you through it?

HI I have been bulimic for a very long time too, I also have 4 kids. While pregnant, I am not sure why, but I did not have the symptoms as much. I think it is because I was pregnant and in my mind that is a time when it is ok to eat and get big....idk.... Children love and do not discriminate until they are taught to. All your child will see is the love that you have for them and that will make you not only the most important part of their world, but one of the most beautiful parts. Good luck on your journey and try to enjoy this time xoxo

Please understand that I'm not trying to push an opinion on you, your choices are yours and I sincerely mean no harm.

Dealing with any sort of disorder would be my first priority- not trying to conceive.

Purpleheadphones wrote:They are telling me that my baby will be ashamed of me because I am overweight (218lbs) and that being pregnant will make me fatter and ugly and my husband won't love me anymore.

For your baby to be healthy, as any mum would wish, you have to have a healthy mindset.
I would not want my child to have any increased health risks... this would be my main concern

You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of another in order to be useful.

i.e. In an airplane you put a mask on yourself before you put a mask on your child


I'm also well aware that this isn't necessarily what you've posted to read about, however it's what struck me the most.