Coming Out to My Family About My BPD

Anasui wrote:
Welp... That turned out horrible. They go off telling me that I'm over reacting and that I don't have BPD. They tell me that I'm being overly sensitive and that I need to grow up. I'm being a spoiled brat and I am just trying to get my own way. And then that it is impossible for me to feel the way I feel because no normal person can handle that kind of stress. And that I should pray to Jesus more. They spent over 15 minutes praying, while during the prayer, it was filled with them still mocking me and talking crap (just more Jesus-like and filled with pretty words), but their attitudes were still the same.

i know how you feel.
when i got sectioned for the first time and it all came out that i wasn't the world orst teenager, i actually wasn't well, i think most of my family breathed out a sigh of relief. the only person who was adamant that i wasn't "unwell" was my nan.
we'd always been super close, but shes a huge christian which i completely respect, i just do not share the same belief.

but my goodness, when it all came out about my disorder and selfharm and stuff, she got angry. she kept telling me little quotes from the bible, and how i was, and i quote "born in gods image, as a perfec humanbeing, but i have been pulled away by my many sins and god will be looking down and be dissapointed. do i not want to go to heaven?"

i remember how upset that made me, but after time i realised that grandparents are from a completely different era, ESPECIALLY if they are strong christians. that is there take on it, and in my nans own special way, she was only saying all that stuff cause she loves me so, that was the best advice she felt like she could give me in order to be better.
but dont get me wrong, it took a LONG time to realise that, and i may be well off the mark with what happened in your situation, but hopefully you can relate?

stay strong x

I honestly don't see how quoting the bible can be helpful. But meh. They seem to just be letting me do my own thing. They will trigger me, but over all, they are just leaving me alone.

It's kinda weird. But oh well...

I have been getting support from one of my friends and my boyfriend. So I am thankful for that. Today, my boyfriend and I actually got to spend a bit of naughty alone time. Which was nice. It's the first time we have been able to do it since he merged with all of his alters. And it was also the first time we had done it in like 2 weeks. So it was nice, even though we wished could have had a better place.

Oh well... a friend of mine and me are planning on having a nude photo shoot and I'm kinda want to see if my boyfriend can tag along with us so that way we can take some pictures together (it would be very artistic because I am VERY pale, and my boyfriend has darker skin so it would be a nice yin yang, and also because a lot of people have stated to us that we look like a lovely couple) and just have fun in nature being naked. And who knows, maybe after we're done, my boyfriend and I can go and mess around for a bit xD

Doubt it, but it would be pretty awesome if we could take the pictures.

oh sure, quoting the bible isn't helpful at all, infact i find it quite insulting sometimes!

but they are your grandparents, and despite their negativity and bibletalk, they love you.
they might just need a little time to process what you told them, so for now they'll just leave you be like you said.

the photoshoot sounds ace!
and i know i wish we could post pictures on here! would be well good.

its nice that you have a boyfriend who is there for you and everything.
wish i could have that, boys take one look at my damaged body and mind and run a mile.
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x

Oh man, sweetheart. What a tough break, truly.


Sometimes, with the disastrous results like this, we feel like we should continue keeping things quiet and personal, but I believe that ANY dialogue is dialogue. It doesn't have to be "good". It just opens a door.


I don't always think that we should be naive to think that others are able to accept mental illness being in "their" family, and they can't understand how to deal with it. It's not training that we all get, nor do any parents/family get a booklet in the mail when you're born.

All you can hope is that somehow things can improve. I think this will certainly happen, but the timeline is certainly dependent upon the people involved.

<3


My best to you~


AMP