Grieving, Caregiving and BPD

I'm new here. I have been living with bpd for 20 years.

I have been caring for my on-again-off-again girlfriend of four years, who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer about four months ago. We are now finding out that it is terminal...I want to have a plan for taking care of myself so that I don't fall apart. I think I will be okay until the very end because I know she needs me. I'm really worried about afterwards...when I'm left alone. I've been doing a good job of taking my medications, seeing my therapists, journaling, expressing my feelings so far and using my DBT skills.

While our relationship never really involved the drama that can often characterize BPD relationships we have grown even closer. This is definitely the closest person in my life...and I'm about to lose her in a few months.

Any similar experiences? Words of advice? Magic wands ???????

wow tripleshine...you are an absolute treasure and a godsend! my heart goes out to you and your girlfriend. i've linked some sites that might help.

http://www.cancer.org/Treatment/Underst ... munication

http://www.cancer.net/patient/Coping/Re ... Has+Cancer

http://www.cancer.net/patient/All+About ... or+Support

i hope that these may give you some ideas/answers.

hugs to the both of you,

wineaux