Are you BPD and a parent?

Is there anyone on here who can share their experience having bpd and being a parent?

I'm a single mother to a six month old son. Sometimes I feel like horrible parent because I can't control my anger. I'm having a hard time in the past several days with getting angry and refraining myself. I'm scared I'll not be able to, that I'll pass my awful traits to him, that I'll end up in crisis and lose him, etc.

Hi wittenc!

There are a lot of mothers with BPD on the forum boards, and I'm sure that they will be happy to share in your fears or offer some advice for ways they've coped with things. In fact, someone just posted yesterday in a similar fashion, but I do not want to call them out if they are uncomfortable about my doing so.

I want to welcome you to the BPD forum, and please feel free to poke around on here and get familiar with the rest of us <3


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Hi!

I'm a mum to three children, it has been hard but I've learnt to take a step back and asses situations over the years x I don't really have an anger problem though, it's more frustration and irritation I feel.

Pm me if you want to ask anything specific or get anything off your chest x just the fact your acknowledging you have a problem is an amazing step to learning to control it x my mum is I diagnosed but I'd put a lot of money on her having bpd. She however would tell you there was nothing wrong and do a damn good job of convincing you too x x

Hi!

I have BPD, and BP. I'm a mother of 5, three of them being four year old triplets. It can be done. I have had to have a lot of help and support by friends and family. I've been on many different meds, and I have a very supportive husband who has had to go through all this with me. I'm just learning to use this forum...so forgive me while I'm trying to figure it out.

Hi there hun,

I am a mother of 3 kids, 17, 13 and 6..

You say you are asingle mother but do you have a intimate relationship with anyone? Sorry for seeming nosey. I just wanted to know if you have any support from anyone around you.

I am not going to lie. It has been hard but no matter how many destructive behaviours we may show the love inside for our child eventually grabs holds of us and shakes sense into us. Guilt can be a crusher butit is the normal process too. More and more we learn to manage our bpd then the more we start to deal with frustrations better when feeling an episode coming. The guilt starts toturn to feeling proud of how you dealt with it.

Pm me if you wnt to and all the best x x

I am a mother of 2 (14 and 9). I have a supportive DH and without that help from him, I think it would have been so much harder to raise my 2 kids. I don't think my BPD issues have affected my kids. Because I love them with all of my heart, I've been able to be calm, rational, supportive and loving with them 99% of the time. Of course, there is that 1% of the time, that I lose my temper with them, but that's normal and just comes with the territory of being a parent.

Our kids have to realize that we are not perfect either, and that we have good days and bad days just like they do. The key is to be able to talk it out with them. If there are days when I felt that I have unnecessarily lashed out at them, I will definitely apologize to them right away (something that my own parents never did!). I do not let them smolder in anger and resentment. I try to clear the air right away, and I think that has helped to keep the communication lines open between me and them.