*Edited* *TRIGGER WARNING*

*edited by Mod, by user/member request of OP.*

You need to:

1. Detach emotionally/Move on/Get over it.
2. Start living YOUR life.
3. This isn’t the correct venue for discussing this particular variant of relational discord.

I don't really think its any of your business how she might be doing, you just sound jilted and jealous and you're blaming that on that "shes crazy" because she has BPD and if it didn't work out with you HOW COULD IT POSSIBLY work out with anyone else.

Also how do you expect us to be able to tell you how some person none of us have ever met would be doing.. do you think we're all the same? Maybe they're still together because hes not an asshole, and treats her well and theyre suited to each other.. usually how most relationships last..

Wow, is this question for real?

OP you're blaming the fact that these women left you on their supposed BPD. Are these women diagnosed, or just your opinion and your 'psychiatrist friend'? Maybe they just saw something in you they didn't like and dumped you! It's possible you know!

And what is this 'study purposes' thing? Do you think we are all stupid as well as 'crazy'?

And you fetishise girls who have eating disorders, who are frail. What kind of sick behaviour is that? Because they are easy to manipulate? So you can act as some kind of saviour and boost your ego?

And as bsl4908 says WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME!! We can't asnwer why they left you. Actually we can, it's because you seem like an insensetive, jealous, creepy, posessive guy who can't tak no for on an answer or believe that someone whould have the audacity to dump you!

The common factor here is YOU not the BPD.

high five!

Oh boy.

First off, let's call off the wolves and the gang-beatings, okay kids? I'm adding a Trigger Warning to this topic, because I can already see the storm's a'brewin'.

To the poster of this topic - this is a forum for people with BPD or those that support a significant other/family member/friend suffering from this disorder.

First off, that being said, it appears to me that you are dating "disordered" people, relatively consistently, which makes me question whether or not you are in some sort of "mode" to help/save others? When this happens, it can be a diversion from saving oneself.

Secondly, as was stated before, what kind of study/survey are you conducting here? I mean, we are all not lab rats, surely, but at the same time, if you wanted to know how she is doing, then why don't you contact her? If she doesn't want to respond, then that is her business, and at that point you should leave her alone. She has made a life for herself - whether or not her future works out does not seem to be of personal impact to you.

I do hope that you're able to heal from the pain of losing your significant others, but at the same time, I would not be blaming this solely on your self-diagnosis of others with this disorder. It's more complicated than that.

And so is treatment. But I'm not going to go there, as I do not see it as being a beneficial topic.

My best of luck to you!

AMP