The Threads I Dread...

No matter who writes the thread, I hate reading the ones where someone is trying to find a therapist or psychiatrist. I hate reading them, because I remember what a royal pain in the ass it was to find someone that you can trust and connect with. I would always be thankful I wasn't in their position. I had a therapist that I'd been with for around 7 years.

That ended!!

Around 7 years ago when I had a breakdown I found my therapist and I really didn't click with him all that well. I stayed with him because he was willing to see me, and in my messed up state I just didn't have the energy or determination to f**k around with insurance companies or dealing with the hassle/aggravation of trying to find someone else that I'd connect with better. So I settled and stayed with him. Over time we developed a great relationship and I saw him longer than I had anyone before him.

On Friday I got a voicemail from him telling me that he was leaving the practice, and he'd no longer be seeing patients. I had NO clue that this was coming. I had no idea that he was even looking at other job prospects. I wish that I had knowledge of this so that it would've been in the back of my mind, that I may need to find someone else. It would've save me a lot of frustration that I experience now.

Box-

My therapist left in November, after I had been with her a year and a half. After two unsuccessful sessions with another therapist who copied DBT self-help off the internet sites, I happened to stumble upon my old therapist practicing at a new office.

Do you think this might be the case? Is it possible that you may find your therapist at another location, and due to privacy/non-competes or whatever, that you may "coincidentally" find them somewhere else?

It's a huge burden to find someone new once you've made progress.

<3

AMP

Unfortunately, he's not going to be seeing patients at another office.

You know on a scale of 1 - 10... 1 being life sucks, and 10 being great...My life is either a 1 or 10.. How I'd love it to range somewhere between 4 - 6. I think I'm just gonna drink tonight so I can feel nothing. I have nothing else to do, and I guess it beats feeling sad... I wish I could figure out/learn how not to be so defective... I'm just not sure I can.

cbox;
I am sorry that you are feeling this way,
hugs.

Do yu think that you could ask your therapist if he could recomend someone to take over?
Someone that he trusts?
mf

I'm sorry to hear it, Cbox. I can't really offer any words of wisdom, since I'm on the waiting list to get started right now, but I definitely feel for you. Logically, I know he didn't do it with the intent of hurting you, but one can't help but feel that they just got f***ed over, hard.

MyFault is right (as usual); see if he has anyone else he'd recommend. He knows what you're like, so he could point you in the right direction and hopefully, cut down on the starting over process a little.

Cbox-

I'm so sorry about the fact you won't be able to see him anymore. I think losing a therapist is like losing a family member. It's painful. It's forever. And its someone who's helped you make progress in your darkest days.

I send you hugs and much good regards... I know this has got to be devastating for you...

<3

AMP