Basically I have a friend who has BPD. She does not like that she is diagnosed BPD because she think it is a an attention seekers illness (her words not mine).
I have in the past been very ill with and ED and hospitalised many times. I am thankfully now very well with my eating. I have recently however been diagnosed with , due to a few manic episode I have had.
Anyway my friend, She does not like her diagnosis. When I had my first manic episode she asked me loads of questions about how I felt, what I was doing, what I was saying to my GP to diagnosed as manic. Then earlier this year when I had another manic episode she said she was manic too and copied my symptoms. But only the ones I told her about?!
Since she has been asking things like: what did you do to get into hospital with your ED? how many times a day did you purge? ect. THen sure enough the next few days she was "saying" she was purging the same amount. I wouldnt have told her if I thought she would copy!
There is other stuff too; like one of our friends has epileptic fits and my friend said that she did but was undiagnosed. I have never heard her say this before so she cant have just developed it.
When she found out about my BP diagnosis she suddenly started saying how X,Y and Z in her family have BP but are undiagnosed. She had never mentioned that before either.
Sometimes her description of the "symptoms" she says she has are a little too text book and not real enough.
she has a psych review coming up soon because she has challenged her diagnosis.
I feel like she wants to be diagnosed as BP because I tend to get a lot of attention for my issues (but only because Im newly diagnosed and still adapting) and she maybe wants that attention.
I personally think her BPD diagnosis is correct as I have known her years and years and she never had a manic episode till I had my very public one. Also she fits most symptoms and I believe she would respond well to BPD treatment, esp as she has PTSD too.
Is this normal BPD behaviour? Is she looking for love from the health service?
I really do feel for her and hope she can just concentrate on her own symptoms rather than other peoples and get the help she need to be safe rather than what she thinks would be the "best" disorder to have.
Problem is now I can talk out loud to my good friends about my symptoms because Im afraid she will copy. Like when I have a bad day I just want to be able to say but I cant any more because she copies and might do something silly then it would be my fault for mentioning it.
I wonder if this is BPD or something else like factitious disorder?
Either way how do I cope with this?
If I tell her how I feel She will get really depressed because she reacts really badly to negative conversations. she sometimes self harms if you say bad stuff.
God I dont want to hurt her but dont know what to do?
Thanks