Physical Affair vs Emotional affair

How do these compare in your opinion?


(edit) I had read an article some years back where they did a pole,
the pole statistics showed among men the rating seemed pretty close to equal 50/50, among women it was something like 70% saw Emotional as the more damaging of the two, only 30% saw Physical as doing more damage.

IMO opinion they are the same thing.

An emotional affair would normally lead to a physical affair unless it's out of reach. Once an emotional affair has started then I can't really see a difference...

Care to elaborate on the question? How would they compare to you?

Comingoutofmyshell wrote:IMO opinion they are the same thing.

An emotional affair would normally lead to a physical affair unless it's out of reach. Once an emotional affair has started then I can't really see a difference...

Care to elaborate on the question? How would they compare to you?

Number one Comingoutofmyshell, You Avatar Rocks.

I was talking with a friend and this subject came up.

I answered I feel they are the same, but I had read an article some years back where they did a pole,
the pole statistics showed among men the rating seemed pretty close to equal, among women it was something like 70% saw Emotional as the more damaging of the two, only 30% saw Physical as doing more damage.

I think I will add this info to the question. Are you male like me? since we see it as 50/50

NEX wrote:Number one Comingoutofmyshell, You Avatar Rocks.

Haha you joker thanks

NEX wrote:I was talking with a friend and this subject came up.

I answered I feel they are the same, but I had read an article some years back where they did a pole,
the pole statistics showed among men the rating seemed pretty close to equal, among women it was something like 70% saw Emotional as the more damaging of the two, only 30% saw Physical as doing more damage.

Bloody women always undecided... IMO I see a lot of women get hung up on the emotional side of things as the word 'emotion' conjures up a lot more thought and feelings. To put a twist on it someone punches you it hurts you walk away you get over it (normally a male response) - flip it into emotion and well someone calls you fat and that worry stay with you in your mind because you worry about thats what others around think and you also believe (normally a woman response). So I can see how the pole came out like that.

NEX wrote:Are you male like me? since we see it as 50/50

All woman

I see them both as equal. Cheating is cheating.. I wouldn't stay with them if they cheated physically, and I wouldn't stay with them if they cheated emotionally..

It's 50/50 for me. Although I do see physically cheating as being the worst of the two.. I wouldn't want any other woman touching my man.

Chaudement wrote:I see them both as equal. Cheating is cheating.. I wouldn't stay with them if they cheated physically, and I wouldn't stay with them if they cheated emotionally..

It's 50/50 for me. Although I do see physically cheating as being the worst of the two.. I wouldn't want any other woman touching my man.

Ok, sorry to argue semantics but was one of the fifties bigger than the other?

You first of all need to define the boundary of what you consider to be emotional cheating.

Consider that woman have always traditionally been seen to be more emotional than men. Clearly, there are exceptions and times are changing that allow and encourage men to express their emotions more openly. Women are tactile, emotional, nuturing and caring by nature.

How men and women process information, experiences, knowledge and so forth is vastly different (left brain / right brain slant and a multitude of studies provide a testament to how opposed the sexes can be in their comprehension of life, how they deal with events and cope with their emotions).

So, before you decide on whether they are the same (and my opinion is that they are not remotely, not even close, to being in the same vein), debate the issue first - on what you consider to be emotional cheating.

It is 100% a subjective matter.

Comingoutofmyshell wrote:Ok, sorry to argue semantics but was one of the fifties bigger than the other?

Lol, well I view them as both equally devastating, and I think they are both considered cheating equally. But physical cheating I dislike more. It doesn't mean I classify physical cheating as more harmful... Just that I dislike it a little more. But I think of them both as equal in terms of cheating.

Get what I'm saying out of all that gibberish?

Interesting question, and one I've thought about before. They both are damaging, although the emotional affair may be easier to forgive, however in either case the trust has been broken.

It's fairly easy to establish when a physical affair has taken place, but the lines are a little bit more blurred when an emotional affair has taken place. To me an emotional affair is a lot more complex than a physical affair. With an emotional affair obviously emotions are involved so it's reasonable to assume the two have a lot in common, they've shared personal/intimate information with one another, and enjoy each others company. I believe the emotional affair actually begins when the persons thoughts shift from their partner to the person their having an affair with. It's reasonable to assume the emotional feelings between the two would at some point lead to a physical relationship. You'd have the complete package emotional and physical. The same can't be said about a physical relationship. You meet them, find each other attractive (in some cases not), and f**k each others brains out, and call it a day. There's a reasonable possibility no "real" feelings or deep emotions even come into play, and won't.

I also think that once an emotional bond has been established that' the making of a pretty solid foundation for a relationship. The same can't be said for the physcial affair.

So, after writing all this $hit I guess an emotional affair would have the potential to have the most devastating effects. Assuming, that the emotional affair didn't lead to anytype of physcial encounter I think a lot of men could look past an emotional affair, but not a physical one, while women would be in the reverse.


Hopefully, something in here makes sense.

They are both as bad as eachother.