stopping the angry-agitated thoughts

I can usually get myself out of depressing thoughts by using my imagination and just thinking of all the wonderful great things i'm going to do with my life like water ski over the hawii waves!!
but an extended family member just stuck her nose in my life and made some comments to which she has no business and only knows 1/2 the story. I walked away without saying anything bad or mean but i've been steaming about it for a day now.. i can't even get my work done because i keep going over her comments and imagining telling her off and it is like nails on a chalkboard. How do i let it go and get on with my life and away from toxic people that seem to suck me in so easily?

Ahhh, that is the question I would like an answer to as well. At least you can keep it to just thoughts. I'm following through with my anger impulses.

Try another diversion. Perhaps if you exercise or do something athletic you can use up that energy.

I truly pity those of you who have it so severe in this particular area that you can't let it out on occasion in controlled bursts, use it as a tool, and then reign it back in and regain control of it. Like, have your monster on a leash and letting him/her slip deliberately on occasion; apparently this is known as manipulating your own disorder.

I can't relate to this at all and I feel as though I should be able to. I allow myself to feel what I wish and I simply keep my feelings dampened via a form of constant meditation I developed over the years; damage can occur as I can go overboard sometimes but it's never something so severe that it's dangerous to this extent. In fact, in addition I'll sometimes use the anger and agitation like fuel at times and I'll feed off of it thus turning it into an advantage, or at least nullifying its disadvantage by making it also work as an advantage. I suppose I'm saying I at times feed off my own disorder, again, manipulating your own disorder.

To me this aspect has become a tool...

Whatever it takes to survive... whatever works... whatever you can get away with... whatever is clever...

I fully understand, though, that for whatever reason what your holding back is so dangerous that you can't react even when some reaction is called for. I simple can't imagine having to live that way, I'm sorry. That's very shite...