A Memo on Mushy!

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A Memo on Mushy!


I’ve had a serious charge brought forth against me: apparently, I’m mushy!

You know what? I’m guilty as charged. It’s true. I am mushy. I know, mushy just doesn’t seem to be popular, it’s not in. But that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be. Alright, it’s true that mushy can be a little on the bothersome side. But it can also be a little on the beautiful side. I say the beautiful is worth the bother.

Be mushy with everyone you love. Today. You never know when you’re going to get another chance, or if you will get another chance. There are car wrecks, terminal illnesses, collapsing bridges and towers, and falls – down staircases. There is also sudden death. Heart attacks, strokes and even strange infections. Even without these reasons, mushy makes sense. Don’t you want to be loved today, too?

Some people will attempt to rob you of your mush motivation. Don’t let that happen, ignore their anti-mush mutter. Be strong in your mush mentality! You’ll be glad you did. Someday, you’ll relish looking back on some very fine mush-filled memories. You might even find yourself the proud owner of some mush-related memorabilia.

So, this moment, while you can, give an abundance of kisses, hugs and caresses. It feels good to be touched! Give little gifts, just because. Don’t forget to pick out a nice Hallmark once in awhile. Never underestimate the power of a mushy message! No matter how you dish out your mush, believe and remember that it can help heal an aching heart, an uneasy soul and a worried mind. Life feels better when you engage in meaningful mush moments. For the giver, as well as the receiver, of said mush.

I challenge you to be your own mush mascot! Be a mush mogul, and even take it mobile. You can be mushy anywhere. Try doing your mushing in a muumuu! No, no, don’t really do that. That’s a big mush mistake! I’m sorry to tell you, though, that being mushy is addictive. Once you start mushing, you’ll find it hard to stop; you’ll be pulling lots of mush-maneuvers. There is no anti-mush medication, no anti-mush support groups and no mush mechanics to step in, should you need assistance. Please be mindful with your mush, because your mush matters; absolutely no mindless mush. It’s forbidden.

There are many folks out there who need to be mushed. In fact, a large mush market does exist, but the ones who most needing your mushing won’t come to you, they just can’t or won’t say so. Resign yourself now: you’ll have to be the mush-maker. You can even entertain the possibility of mushing someone anonymously, as long as you don’t do anything at all to hurt them (it’s a no-no to practice mush maliciously). The possibilities are wide-open for a mysterious, anonymous mush-maker. Oh my!

Don’t let anything get in the way of performing mush miracles. Who knows, maybe one day they’ll start a mush museum. For now, keep up the motivation to be mushy. Mushy creates magic!

"Like" + at the same time "Noooooooo!"

Passenger wrote:"Like" + at the same time "Noooooooo!"

Why? Did it make you feel angry? What were your feelings about it?

I think I need a definition of mush, because I am a little confused >_>. If it is what I think it is, then it is a good idea. Unless I split into my negative side .

Lollirot wrote:I think I need a definition of mush, because I am a little confused >_>. If it is what I think it is, then it is a good idea. Unless I split into my negative side .

Oh, somewhere on another post, the one about Marsha Linehan coming out with the fact that she had BPD herself...someone posted that she felt "mushy" or loving toward her, something on that order. I can't remember the exact words but I had the sense she felt "cheesy" for feeling "mushy." So I posted this, in the hopes of people seeing that being mushy is wonderful, not awful. LOL

I guess I am a real lover. Very mushy myself. This exact post is on my blog so I posted it here - thought it might encourage others to reach out and love!

Yeah, I know what you mean. Sometimes the negative side doesn't want to love anyone.

Oh, alright that makes sense. Yeah, I feel like that a lot when I am in my good mood. It is a really nice feeling.

Lollirot wrote:Oh, alright that makes sense. Yeah, I feel like that a lot when I am in my good mood. It is a really nice feeling.

Well I wrote this a long time ago, over a year ago, and at the time I was undiagnosed and just always noticed, or it seemed to me anyway, that most people walk around like zombies. I always had the feeling that people were totally detached from their feelings, like most people just didn't FEEL. LOL.

Well geez, and then I find out I have BPD and realize, "Ohhhh, it's me, not them." They do have feelings, but mine are more intense and last longer, so no wonder most people seem like they are zombies incapable of feeling anything.

I could never figure it out before. Like: WHY do things like working, shopping, money, clothes, any material things, being on time and just time in general, seem so IMPORTANT to other people, but not to me? I still feel that way, sort of, though I am beginning to get why other people view me as the strange one. They don't understand that most of these things hold no importance to me...or very little.

I could never figure out why people don't think about FEELINGS more. I get it now. But I still don't like it. LOL

And isn't it the truth that when you lose someone, someone dies...that we regret not having spent more time with them? I never understand why people don't make their friends and loved ones more important NOW, while they can.

I love a good helping of cheese and mush.

uscitizen1966 wrote:

Passenger wrote:"Like" + at the same time "Noooooooo!"

Why? Did it make you feel angry? What were your feelings about it?

It's good and healthy to show affection and appreciation and spontaneously do nice things for others. In that sense, right on.

However, I've known a bunch of people who seem to use "nice, happy" behavior to be intrusive, establish unwanted relationships, and generally disrespect others' boundaries.

For example, a customer should not go around a restaurant buttonholing employees and trying to give them her uneaten food, then call them "unappreciative" after they have to tell her NO repeatedly. (Once should be sufficient, twice adds to the discomfort, and three or four times amounts to being bullied.)

Aside from our not wanting to eat a stranger's leftovers, it was obvious that she was trying to establish "friendships" which would obligate us to have lots of unwanted interaction with her in the future. It was passive-aggressive bulls**t.

In this case I think your enthusiasm just shows a positive attitude, but it can be used to cover ulterior motives. I'm reminded of a comedian I saw: "You know people who are always like, 'I just have so much to GIVE'? Be very afraid, because they are BLACK HOLES OF EMOTIONAL NEED."

agirlbyanyothername wrote:I love a good helping of cheese and mush.

Me, too.

-- Mon Jul 04, 2011 5:12 pm --

Passenger wrote:It's good and healthy to show affection and appreciation and spontaneously do nice things for others. In that sense, right on.

However, I've known a bunch of people who seem to use "nice, happy" behavior to be intrusive, establish unwanted relationships, and generally disrespect others' boundaries.

For example, a customer should not go around a restaurant buttonholing employees and trying to give them her uneaten food, then call them "unappreciative" after they have to tell her NO repeatedly. (Once should be sufficient, twice adds to the discomfort, and three or four times amounts to being bullied.)

Aside from our not wanting to eat a stranger's leftovers, it was obvious that she was trying to establish "friendships" which would obligate us to have lots of unwanted interaction with her in the future. It was passive-aggressive bulls**t.

In this case I think your enthusiasm just shows a positive attitude, but it can be used to cover ulterior motives. I'm reminded of a comedian I saw: "You know people who are always like, 'I just have so much to GIVE'? Be very afraid, because they are BLACK HOLES OF EMOTIONAL NEED."

It's good and healthy to show affection and appreciation and spontaneously do nice things for others. In that sense, right on.

However, I've known a bunch of people who seem to use "nice, happy" behavior to be intrusive, establish unwanted relationships, and generally disrespect others' boundaries.

For example, a customer should not go around a restaurant buttonholing employees and trying to give them her uneaten food, then call them "unappreciative" after they have to tell her NO repeatedly. (Once should be sufficient, twice adds to the discomfort, and three or four times amounts to being bullied.)

Aside from our not wanting to eat a stranger's leftovers, it was obvious that she was trying to establish "friendships" which would obligate us to have lots of unwanted interaction with her in the future. It was passive-aggressive bulls**t.

In this case I think your enthusiasm just shows a positive attitude, but it can be used to cover ulterior motives. I'm reminded of a comedian I saw: "You know people who are always like, 'I just have so much to GIVE'? Be very afraid, because they are BLACK HOLES OF EMOTIONAL NEED."

I see your point. No I was not advocating being intrusive, stalking, bullying, that kind of thing. More of a "random acts of kindness" idea.

The reason I posted this was because somewhere on another thread, can't now remember which one or who said it, was posted something on the order of: geez, I know this sounds mushy, but...

I see nothing wrong with being mushy, as I wrote, as long as it isn't being intrusive, etc.

But where I was coming from is that sometimes people who really need help aren't able to ask for it, and more my point was to just be compassionate and give them a hug!

Thanks for your reply. I thought I had made clear in my little essay NEVER to abuse or misuse being mushy, but maybe I have not!