Hi everyone

I only just found this site, and im glad I did. It has a lot of useful information. Which I will be glad to read over time. Hopefully I can make some new friends who have the same illness as I do, as its hard to find people who understand those of us with BPD.
I was diagnosed with BPD when I was 15, Im now 26. And Im still trying to fully understand myself, and what this is all about. I suffered with self harm for my early years with BPD, but with the help of private hospitalisation and private DBT groups, I have managed to over come the self harm for now. My main issues at the moment are abandonment. I cant handle anyone leaving me for whatever reason. And even if its only a friend saying goodbye on the phone, i break down. I was just recently told by my DBT therapist that one of my counsellors who I was really close to has left the practice, so i wont see her ever again. Which has torn me to pieces. Someone I have been working with so closely for the past 6 years, to disappear from my life without even telling me she was leaving, and not even saying goobye. Somehow I have to move on from this but I have no idea how I am going to do so.
Anyway, I wont ramble on with depressing stuff... Hi everyone, and Nice to meet you all...

Hi Coastalgirl,

Welcome to the forum

Sorry about your therapist leaving like that, it was very inconsiderate of her to not say she was going. I hope you find people here understand, everyone is really friendly and tries hard to help each other out round here. I think abandonment is the big nasty bit in BPD, hopefully you can help understand more here.

Hi coastalgirl

Welcome to the forum. I'm 26 too, but I've only just been diagnosed BPD recently.

I can understand what it's like to have a good counsellor leave- I'd found one when I was still under the Child and Adolescent team at the hospital who I felt like I could talk to easily. And one day I went in to see my other counsellor I also saw there, and he told me that he'd left- been transferred. I was really disappointed and felt hurt that he hadn't told me himself at my previous session. And that was before BPD.

Feel free to vent your thoughts- it helps to get it out. If depressing thoughts is where you're at and you need to talk about it, that's perfectly ok.

And like Katana said- everyone's friendly and willing to help.

Lily