The Borderline Eyes?

centerpath wrote:

motionissue wrote:I'd self describe as having always worn my heart on my sleeve. Been thin skinned, assumed what others are feeling, expecially negative emotions and anger, are my fault. It's in harmony with how I was raised, made to feel responsible for the projections and emotional immaturity and disregulation of my care givers. I believe that those formative experiences speak directly to my illness. Given what I know I believe my experience isn't unique among BPD's.

centerpath wrote: I think so. I'm suggesting, using my own experience and how it's been confronted, as a model. To say that a trait in BPD is that due to developmental issues in our early lives we turn to others for reference points for emotional regulation. If that's the case then it makes sense we'd have heightened awareness of facial cues. As well, because we might lack the inner resources to make discreet computations internally, or for other reasons, we tend to display our emotions through our eyes as well as expressions and body language.

I'd self describe as having always worn my heart on my sleeve. Been thin skinned, assumed what others are feeling, expecially negative emotions and anger, are my fault. It's in harmony with how I was raised, made to feel responsible for the projections and emotional immaturity and disregulation of my care givers. I believe that those formative experiences speak directly to my illness. Given what I know I believe my experience isn't unique among BPD's.

Shazam wrote:At times, I view my extra sensitivity as a gift, but usually I think it's a liability... a thicker skin would certainly help me get more done in life! Still, I wonder -- if everyone had this BPD extra sensitivity, would there be less violence and other nastiness in the world? I think so. I think the extra sensitivity would lead the world away from evil, not toward it.

centerpath wrote: I think borderlines should first become self aware, and then find each other and make a commitment to validating each other and accepting each other. Make clusters of our type of normal, and learn to be nice. Not such a hard thing I think.

motionissue wrote:

centerpath wrote: I think borderlines should first become self aware, and then find each other and make a commitment to validating each other and accepting each other. Make clusters of our type of normal, and learn to be nice. Not such a hard thing I think.

Yes, and it would make us all happier too! I avoid showing what I'm feeling to most people for that reason. It'll push them all away. I saw at a very young age that I was different, as did everyone else. There were some that I'd get along with along the way, though its been hard to keep people in my life for long. Its much better than it was though.