The Borderline Eyes?

e never met another bpd but I know my eyes mirror my feelings. I have eyes people can fall in love with when I am happy but when I am angry my eyes are wild and pretty scary looking. My eyes are deffo the window to my soul.

I've got the strangest colour eyes EVER they change... Apparently this is due to central heterochromia
They look like:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Heter ... iridum.jpg

But only my partners/family have ever noticed, I never get commented on about my eyes. Only that I have a glare that could kill. *great*

I have the same kind of eyes, missehffs!

I think that BPDs have the tendency to look at the people we idealize with dilated pupils. Apparently that is attractive... says science.

Seems that BPDs have extra sensitivity to others state of mind.They'll make good private investigators or even counselors..

Steve-o wrote:Every "borderline" I've met has a flirtatious, longing look in her eyes. A sort of desire and vulnerability that makes me want to take her. This is just my small, biased, personal sample, but others have told me they see the same with the people they know. I think it's real.

Interesting. I've been told I look flirtatious even when I wasn't. That I look lost, young, and vulnerable. Innocent even. Though thinking I'm innocent lasts until they try to take advantage, then they run wondering what just hit them XD

Z1t23ch3 wrote:Also, I think I read that they have larger than average penises and are better lovers, arm wrestlers and tree climbers.

I don't think I've met a group that someone hasn't made this claim about. I've heard it about everything from homosexuals, evangelicals, straight men, the list goes on....

nonameatall wrote: I do know that I could probly get by without a body and just survive with EYEBALLS alone. There is so much goin' on inside em. I've seen it in others also and been told myself.

VERY intense penetrating 'lookers'.

I don't know about others but I can feel the stare goin both ways back into my own skull and out the other side...starin' at everything in between.

Thats why I reckon like Ive said before that even younger people with BPD just seem like they've been around for a long time.
It's in the eyes...how they completely dominate the face and the person. They understand things, lots of things.

I can see this, I've noticed it as well. I find we also, having been through $#%^, it can show on the eyes as signs of stress. And we tend to have alot more understanding being that we always have as much stress as we do, and trouble dealing with it.

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Mörk wrote:I've always been told my eyes are intense, deep and somewhat calculating. "The kind that sees straight into your soul, whether you'd like it or not", as my friend put it. I haven't met anyone with BPD irl as far as I know, but it makes sense; they say the eyes are windows to the soul, right?

There was this guy at work when I worked at walmart, he was kinda cute. Well... he'd think I had devious eyes. Because every time he saw me, I was looking at him, and said hi. I felt bad I made him a little paranoid, he'd joke with me about it, but I knew he was straight and I know he didn't know I wasn't....

Diagnosed with BPD, not sure if I am. My eyes are quite normal, they're hazel (it's green and brown together, right? Not an English native speaker). They're problematic- I must use eye drops 'cause they're dry and I got allergic inflammation often. Also am near-sighted. I must say I find it hard to look at another person's eyes when speaking. It makes me feel uncomftrable.

Also, I know other people who are diagnosed with BPD. All of them are different. All of them have their own eyes (well, of course. ). Some have really pretty eyes, others don't. Just like other people.

It's absolutely true!

I definitely think that there's truth to that. I have been told I am very intense in the way I behave, and I know that I am a very intense, deep observer of things around me and the way I look at people. I bellieve that my father and one of my sisters have BPD as well, and they also have that very same intense way of looking at people.

I have never looked at my eyes till just a minute ago. Brown with a bluish ring around them.
I've always been told people said i had angry eyes. Or that i could kill with my looks.
And people call me delusional.

"Borderline eyes" are extremely intense.

People with BPD are extremely tuned in to the emotions of others. This was a survival tactic, from early childhood. If you were being abused (emotionally, physically or sexually) you were forced to constantly "read" those around you.

This strange "radar" will be a life-long trait, unless you dull it with drugs or alcohol (and, I suspect, a lot of BPDs turn to drugs or alcohol IN ORDER to do this).

The trick is....ok, you pick up on things others can not. You can also pick up on the fact that this makes people uncomfortable.

So, what do you do with it?