The Borderline Eyes?

Comingoutofmyshell wrote:

Z1t23ch3 wrote:I read that they have larger than average penises

You're kidding right? You sure you were reading the right thing...

Ha, yes, that is called a joke.

Hi this is to clarify...

I was referring to the EYES, from the original topic..

Kinda funny though, woulda looked stupid and still does...."the Audacity!"

Oh well... I better pay attention a bit better I reckon.

thanks for pointing that out.

I am a good tree climber definitely!

I have been told many, many times by many people that I have "intriguing" eyes. What does that mean? What I think it means is that those of us with Borderline are so good at being able to scope out others needs and wants (we are so afraid of abandonment that we make awesome lovers, caregivers, friends - meeting every need - for awhile). I think maybe that's why people notice my eyes. It's the intensity of the look that I can give someone that draws them in. Like I am completely and totally taken by them, when in fact, it is the other way around. I am scoping them out and drawing them in. Just being honest. I am starting a DBT and life coaching program this week (have been through years of CBT that has helped, but I keep going into remission which, from what I read, rarely happens with DBT) and I want to kick this thing. I know you can recover from it and I feel being honest about myself and the tools I use to sabotage myself and others is an important step. Anyway, just wanted to share why I feel people with borderline have awesome eyes. It's more the way they use them than their actual eyes being different. IMHO

I've had my eyes mentioned a bit by people. My smile as well.
I think that the Apparent Competence I am so good at is at least part of the reason. Any emotion is easily read off my face, even when I'm pretending it looks real.

lol when I was staying in the adolecent pyscho ward, over the course of 8 days I had about 10 girls tell me I have pretty eyes... I kept getting nicknamed pretty eyes, even when I came back the second time o.o I just met a 30 year old male borderline and he has murder eyes... note he has been addicted to meth and been to jail 8 months, but hes really nice I met him while he was hammered on the frolf course, it is funny when we try to keep eye contact for more then a few seconds.

I always joke to kids in school, theres this kid with borderline eyes and I dare them to look him in the eyes cuz they will have their soul manifested... anyways I have ADD k bai

The OP is on to something.


http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19460187


Enhanced 'Reading the Mind in the Eyes' in borderline personality disorder compared to healthy controls.!@#@ EA, Jekal A, Song I, Wyman B, Morris MC, Wilson ST, Brodsky BS, Stanley B.
SourceDepartment of Psychiatry, Columbia University/New York State Psychiatric Institute, New York, NY 10032, USA. ef304@columbia.edu

Abstract
BACKGROUND: Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is partly characterized by chronic instability in interpersonal relationships, which exacerbates other symptom dimensions of the disorder and can interfere with treatment engagement. Facial emotion recognition paradigms have been used to investigate the bases of interpersonal impairments in BPD, yielding mixed results. We sought to clarify and extend past findings by using the Reading the Mind in the Eyes Test (RMET), a measure of the capacity to discriminate the mental state of others from expressions in the eye region of the face.

METHOD: Thirty individuals diagnosed with BPD were compared to 25 healthy controls (HCs) on RMET performance. Participants were also assessed for depression severity, emotional state at the time of assessment, history of childhood abuse, and other Axis I and personality disorders (PDs).

RESULTS: The BPD group performed significantly better than the HC group on the RMET, particularly for the Total Score and Neutral emotional valences. Effect sizes were in the large range for the Total Score and for Neutral RMET performance. The results could not be accounted for by demographics, co-occurring Axis I or II conditions, medication status, abuse history, or emotional state. However, depression severity partially mediated the relationship between RMET and BPD status.

CONCLUSIONS: Mental state discrimination based on the eye region of the face is enhanced in BPD. An enhanced sensitivity to the mental states of others may be a basis for the social impairments in BPD.

Interesting.

I have never read this thread. Until now.

I am often commented on my eyes. As well as my smile. My face is soft and inviting. Expressive.

When I am engaged with someone of interest that person becomes the sole focus of my attention. I will maintain eye contact intensely. I have never given it much thought. I do it for a number of reasons.

1. I am truly interested in what you have to say.
2. I am reading you.
3. I desire to bring you in closer to me. Connect.
4. I sometimes see what I don't think is expressed. A relation to something I feel.

I would as well though think this normal of most people.

yes, something in the eyes.

certainly a yearning and searching quality.

Cool study.
I don't really look into people's eyes often, unless I know them. I'm too good at violating a person that way. For example, a friend of mine likes to hide his emotions, and he was telling me he was fine after a particularly difficult conversation we had. His tone and body language pretty much agreed with his words, except not his eyes. I kept staring at them and said, "You're not fine. You're scared of ____." He jumped and he told me to stop looking in his eyes. I responded, "See? Now you're totally freaked out that I can do this all the time." And I do, lol.

I've always been told my eyes are intense, deep and somewhat calculating. "The kind that sees straight into your soul, whether you'd like it or not", as my friend put it. I haven't met anyone with BPD irl as far as I know, but it makes sense; they say the eyes are windows to the soul, right?