Is he still interested? D: [long pathetic ramble]

Ok, I feel like a loser for making a thread about such things but I need your advice on whether the guy I'm currently seeing is interested in me or not.

We started talking on msn a fair few weeks ago. The first time we actually had a conversation on msn he ended up calling me.
Then after that we were talking on the phone quite frequently. At this time he was on holidays in Adelaide for xmas.
Then he was finally going to go home.. he lives in Ballarat, about an hour and a half from me, I live in Melbourne.

Basically when we talked on the phone or on msn it was mainly about err.. adult things. Among other things too.
I kind of thought that maybe he was just interested in a more casual relationship/friendship. As time went on we began talking about other things and we got to know each other a bit better. Once when he was drunk he even sent me a txt saying "I want you to be my girl but I'm afraid to admit it and I'm afraid of rejection". I received a couple of other messages similar to that.

I was really beginning to like him at that point and we arranged to meet, the same day that he was flying back from Adelaide. He stayed at mine for the night.
We didn't err.. have intercourse but we did play around a bit. He was very sweet to me and we spent most of the time just cuddling in bed.
He was really sweet the next morning too, I hadn't eaten in days because of a few diffrent reasons and he took me out to breakfast.
I THINK he wanted to spend more time with me but I was really tired and I didn't get any sleep that night so I asked him to go home.

I'm really no good when I don't get any sleep, I can't cope with anything, I actually ended up feeling really suicidal that night.
But anyway.
Not sure how long exactly, might of been a week or two later I went to his place. The week (or two) before I went there I wasn't geting as many phone calls. I was getting a fair few txts, saying he missed me etc.

I got there late sunday night and I went to bed early because I was pretty tired. The next day I felt a bit upset because he didn't seem all that interested in spending time with me. All he wanted to do was watch dvds. I like watching dvds but I just don't think it's a good activity to do if you want to get to know someone, but that's just me.
Then when we were outside have a ciggarette I said "if you want me to leave, just tell me, I don't want to intrude" and err things got a bit awkward and he
said it might be best if I leave tomorrow (tuesday) because he wanted to go the the net cafe and do some gaming >_< So I felt quite rejected after that.

Anyway that night we had a couple of bottles of wine and fooled around a bit. No intercourse though. While we were standing outside his best friend rang him and he put the phone onto me for a minute and I talked to his friend. After awhile he said to his friend "Ok I've gotta go, gotta get back to my woman".
Then we went back to bed, talked for awhile then went to sleep.

The next morning we just bummed around the house, watching more dvds and not doing much. I said "so when do you want me gone by?"
I think he caught on that I was feeling upset and he said "I don't want you gone gone. Sometime late this afternoon" and proceeded to give me hugs.

Then we left and parted with a hug and a kiss.
I didn't hear anything from him until thursday when I gave him a call. He seemed.. different. Not as warm and he wasn't calling me any of the pet names he usually calls me. When only talked for about 10 mins. It's been like that since thursday (it's saturday now).
He did say today thought that he wanted me to come over next week, after I brought it up though. Meh.


Also, when I called him today he was like "So what did you want to talk about? Why did you ring me?" sort of thing.
I just rang him because I wanted to talk to him o.O
The conversation was fairly short today too.


What do you guys think? Is he really interested in me? Does he just want sex?




REALLY sorry for the length of this, but I just wanted to make sure I mentioned everythign that has happened. Haha, I really like him D:

I'm guessing.........not to be derogatory, that you're fairly young. Is he also?


Also, why feel like a loser for posting? This is a good place to get dispassionate advice. It's also a good place, to get varied advice..... so don't feel bad, you should feel smart about posting here. : )


Anyways.........(that was thursday, it's now saturday?)

LOL........relax. You've only known him a short time........and you're getting way ahead of yourself.

Yes, he does like you. How much? Who the hell knows. He probably doesn't.....as he BARELY KNOWS YOU!

Yes he wants sex. And yes, he MOSTLY wants you for sex. (i'm assuming, of course, but it's probably a fair assumption) But again, he barely knows you. You gotta give yourself time to grow on him.


As for the DVD's.......maybe he's just boring? Maybe he has no idea what else to do? He does want to watch them with you right?


So yeah.........if you like him, then relax. And if you can't relax, try and atleast act like you are more relaxed. Look at all the reasons, why you should relax. (u barely know him!) (it's also going to drive him away)

So yeah, the cooler you are about it......the more likely it will turn out the way you want. Worry more about whether or not you like him, and why........rather than whether or not he likes you.

Twistedmister wrote:I'm guessing.........not to be derogatory, that you're fairly young. Is he also?


Also, why feel like a loser for posting? This is a good place to get dispassionate advice. It's also a good place, to get varied advice..... so don't feel bad, you should feel smart about posting here. : )


Anyways.........(that was thursday, it's now saturday?)

LOL........relax. You've only known him a short time........and you're getting way ahead of yourself.

Yes, he does like you. How much? Who the hell knows. He probably doesn't.....as he BARELY KNOWS YOU!

Yes he wants sex. And yes, he MOSTLY wants you for sex. (i'm assuming, of course, but it's probably a fair assumption) But again, he barely knows you. You gotta give yourself time to grow on him.


As for the DVD's.......maybe he's just boring? Maybe he has no idea what else to do? He does want to watch them with you right?


So yeah.........if you like him, then relax. And if you can't relax, try and atleast act like you are more relaxed. Look at all the reasons, why you should relax. (u barely know him!) (it's also going to drive him away)

So yeah, the cooler you are about it......the more likely it will turn out the way you want. Worry more about whether or not you like him, and why........rather than whether or not he likes you.

Yeah.. I'm feeling a bit more calm today.

Yes I am fairly young, almost 20.

I just expect too much too soon...eh

As Twistedmister pointed out, you barely know each other. It sounds like you’re still in that awkward stage of getting to know each other without giving too much away. I’m sure lack of experience and maturity might be making things more difficult than they have to be. I agree that spending the entire day watching DVD’s isn’t ideal. Perhaps that’s what he’s into and he’s just not considerate enough to ask what you want to do. He also might not make a lot of money and this was an inexpensive alternative to going out.

My question is, are you still interested in him? It sounds like you’re not really that happy hanging out with the guy. He seems indifferent or at least unable to express himself in a manner that appeals to you. I’m getting the impression that you’re not that interested, but the idea of him being ambivalent about you makes you feel bad or rejected. So despite not being that into the guy, you can’t help but want him to be into you. Maybe I’m reading it wrong, but that’s the impression I got.