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Heya,

I'd argue that by staying in contact with him, you are actually doing him more harm than good. The solution here is simple: You have to sever all contact with him. replying to try to make him 'understand' won't work. It will just give him false hope that you can get back together. You have to be cruel in the short term, to be nice in the long term.

I advise you to change your email address and phone number, and to not even bother telling him as such. He has to learn to deal with situations like this in life, whether he likes it or not. It's not your responsibility to help him.

Kevin

I've been on both sides of this coin... ....when he says that he cannot control it, it's pretty much the truth. The feeling really is as if you cannot control the urge to contact the person. You wanna know what I had to do? - I smashed my phone with a bat (not baseball - we don't play that here). That was the only way I could avoid sending my ex messages.

So... I think you'd be doing him a favour by just changing your life's direction and moving on. You are the one who can maintain control here, so I really advise either changing your email/phone number, or just deleting each of his messages as they arrive (without even deleting them). You could also leave your phone in some place and then check-back to it later to just delete the messages.

He will calm down, but not if you continually reply to him. That gives him false hope.

..Have to be cruel to be kind here...

Kevin

lol - okay - I hope that you enjoyed that roast. All that I ate today was a measly ham sandwich and fruit for breakfast. i'm male, 27, and live alone - go figure.

You're in no way a "cow" for doing what you are doing.

Kevin